Before You Submit Your Question…….

Ask the Workplace Doctors is a FREE resource to help you find solutions to workplace communication problems. If you are thinking about submitting a question, the following information may be useful to you:

1. You may find the answer to your question in our archive of over 3,000 questions and responses. Look for the general category, on the right, then scan the Q & A’s.

2. Your name and email will not appear in our posted answer. An immediate response will be sent you via your email as soon as possible–usually within two days. If you scan our recent posted Q&A and Archives, you will see that all submitted questions are anonymous.

read more

My Boss is Also My Brother-In-Law and He Is Becoming More Angry and Controlling

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a potentially violent boss/brother-in-law. 

***************************************

Question: I work for my sister’s husband. He’s an angry, controlling man who has been worse of late. After an incident where he was screaming at her, calling her a B**** and threatening to commit suicide, he was take away in handcuffs and all of his guns were confiscated, but he played nice with the mental health folks and released. I told her not to be home when he got home, so she moved in with me. He told me if she divorced him, he’d fire me, but right after she had him served, both of his other employees quit, so he’s had to rely on me and couldn’t fire me. Last week he casually, totally out of nowhere, told me that he’d gotten a concealed weapon permit. When I mentioned it to my sister, she recalled a recent incident where they were with mutual friends and he told them that he’d had the weirdest dream, that he’d awakened in the night and thought there was an intruder in my sister’s bedroom, so he got a gun and went into her bedroom, and there was no one there, and then he’d wakened in her bedroom– and wasn’t that a funny dream? No one laughed.

read more

Manager Shoved Me and Grabbed My Arm. What Should I Do?

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors, about a manager
who shoved an employee aside, apparently for no reason. 

Question: My manager grabbed my wrist last week and shoved my arm. She came to my register to just supply change and I was beside her, but not in the way.

Response: You don’t say how hard your manager grabbed your arm or shoved you—and there is a big difference between a light movement, to casually move someone out of the way or a firm but non-painful grasp–or a violent grab and shove. But, I can understand if you felt demeaned by her behavior and resented it enough that you’re still upset by it. Whatever the circumstances, there would be almost no reason I could think of for anyone to grab someone’s wrist and shove them, except in an emergency.

read more

Should I Go Higher?

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about an unsanitary working condition:

I told my supervisor about poop on the walls at work he said he would take care of it I come back three days later and it’s still there? I’m a temp. Should I got to a higher up bout it since he won’t do anything bout it?
Signed–Bypass Boss

read more

To Make Management Listen and Care

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about how it manages:

I am a CAP team 2 associate at WalMart. I have been working here for close to 3 months now. Management has been hounding the cap 2 team, but slack off themselves.

I am a student and cannot work 40 hours a week. I gave my manager my school schedule and my availability during school back in the beginning of August. They still schedule me on days I cannot work. I gain points I should not have and management has to remove them. They boss us around, telling us that we don’t do our jobs when they cannot even make a schedule.

read more

New and Unwelcome

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about identity:

I was hired as a Receptionist/Operations Assistant. The first day my coworker says, “I don’t know why you are here”. And “I’m going to be the Receptionist because I need to get paid more,” etc.

I just looked at her and made an inquiry to the Administrator – what is my position going to be? I was told with my background and experience that I could assist her and help the small staff in office, until they hire more people. 

read more

Persuading Management to Better Low-Level Employees’ Incentives

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about improving incentives:

I used to work at a regional branch of ADT. My job consisted of making sales and meeting with customers for a consultation. We have low level “runners” who go door to door and try to set up consultations but receive a base pay regardless of how many consultations they set up. This reduces overall productivity for the business and I believe it would be more beneficial to everyone if there were more incentives for our “runners”, but I am not sure how to bring it up to my boss in a rational reasonable way that makes him support the idea rather than just be skeptical about losing money by paying more to the lower level employees.

read more

Should I Contact the Employer of “the Other Woman”?

A Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about whether or not to contact the employer of the woman with whom her husband had an affair. 

Your question:
My husband has admitted to having an affair with a woman who began contacting him through his work email via her work email. They work at two separate companies. My husband has since ended the relationship and confessed of inappropriate talk and exchanging pictures (all photos were exchanged over text so this would not pertain to my question) with the woman who was separated from her husband but their divorce was not finalized.

read more

Is There a Time Limit for Reporting Inappropriate Touching at Work?

A Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about
reporting inappropriate touching at work.

Question:
I was with my co-worker and he told me that a guy likes me. Then, he asked me, “If you don’t mind, can I take pictures with you to make this guy feel angry?” He was joking with me, so I replied OK.

Things started getting weird when he started getting closer. He put his lips near my chin and I told him I’m feeling uncomfortable. Then he started doing it again and kissed me on my lips. I was shocked! He took the picture really quickly. I told him he could take photos from a distance and he took a selfie of us sitting together. He sent the pic of us sitting together, then I asked for his phone and deleted the picture. When I was deleting his picture he started to touch my breast. I told him “Please stop, I don’t like it” Then I left the scene and never reported it to anyone.

read more

Why Am I Being Moved Around at Work?

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about possible reasons for several instances of being relocated within the workplace.

Question:
A month ago, I started a new job as a cashier and still haven’t created many contacts with my colleagues. However, they were all friendly until something unusual happened. I was sitting back to back with a male colleague and we had spoken to each other a little bit, when the manager saw us and said something to our supervisor. A minute later the supervisor came and asked my male colleague to move.

read more

Should a Coworker’s Drug Use Outside of Work Be Reported?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about reporting drug use:

A friend of mine works at a bank and he has become friends with a co-worker. That male co-worker of my friend has been open about doing drugs outside of the workplace. He has noticed a change in his productivity and mood since his friend of 6 months now, has been using drugs. He wants to know if he should talk to his friend who is using or go right to the boss.

Signed–Drugs and Work

read more