Should My Husband’s Boss Know About His Affair?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a husband’s affair with an employee: She doesn’t seem to care that she is a home-wrecker. I feel his store manager should know what is going on.

My husband, who is a dept manager at Wal-Mart, has decided to have an affair with an employee who likes to break up marriages. We have two children, and I feel like his employer should know of what this woman is capable. She doesn’t seem to care that she is a home-wrecker. I feel his store manager should know what is going on.

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Sex And Career Advancement

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about  an apparently attractive woman who has slept her way up: I don’t want her to be my boss because I will do all her work and get no promotion.

I work in large corporation, which has written rules prohibiting sex and relationship in the workplace. My young blond coworker has advanced herself from assistant to senior technical position without any experience in 3 years. Her ex-manager spent more than $50,000 of company money sending her for training, but she learned nothing. She has dated at least 4 married VPs to get promotion. She has broken 2 marriages and a VP secretly married her against company policy. Since she has neither skills nor experience, she uses men coworkers or even the some VPs to do her job and takes all credit. She uses her power of gets rid of anybody she doesn’t like. Even though she’s married, she still flirts or does whatever it take to get ahead and secure her position.

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How Do I Deal With My Attraction For My Boss?

Question to Ask the Workplace  Doctors about attraction to boss:

For nearly a year, I have been terrified of my supervisor because I have more than professional feelings for him. We have a good working relationship and I don’t want anything to ruin it, but, every day, I find it hard to hide my feelings. How do I deal?

Signed, More Than Professional

Dear More Than Professional:

It is good that you can differentiate between professional behavior and personal feelings. Now you need to define what communication and action transgress the boundaries that should be maintained between them. It is not uncommon for us to be attracted for someone with whom we work. We are not machines. We have drives and fantasies. We often interpret each others’ verbal and non-verbal acts as interests that go beyond the job. Therefore you are wise to understand those feelings that well up in you.You don’t say if either or both of you have significant others or are married. This fact is information that you should learn if you do not know it now. Nor have you said if you superior has made playful advances that have encouraged your personal feelings for him. However you might respond to those whether your feelings might cross the boundaries of marriage or have been encouraged, your question recognizes that your feelings might “ruin” a good working relationship.

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Should I Report Boss-Employee Relationship?

Question to Ask the Workplace  Doctors about a supervisor involvement and favoritism to a coworker: What bothers me is that I’ve approached him a couple of times in regards to the co-worker’s work performance and my supervisor for obvious reasons is covering for her.

My supervisor is the one who hired me two years ago. He has started a relationship with one of my co-workers. What bothers me is that I’ve approached him a couple of times in regards to the co-worker’s work performance and my supervisor for obvious reasons is covering for her. He also covers for her in meetings, and I’m 90% sure that he gave her the same raise I received, even though she is on Facebook and MSN messenger or shopping online all day.

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Boss Behind Closed Door With My Coworker

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about my boss’ affair with co-worker:

My boss is having an affair with one of my co-workers, and the co-worker is given accounts that should be given to others. The affair has been going on for 4 years. It has been brought to the attention of our CEO, but nothing has happened. Their affair is obvious and sometimes is very distracting. They argue in the office, spend hours behind closed doors, and have been spotted parking in out of the way places. Do we ignore the situation or do we go to higher CEO.

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Workplace Breakup

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about coworker breakup:

I dated a coworker for about two years. When I broke up with him, it started to become a fatal attraction type of thing. I asked my boss if they could transfer me to a different site because of the conflict. But they didn’t take me seriously. He became violent with me especially when they told him that I wanted to transfer. How do I deal with this so I won’t be embarrassed because of the situation and neither of us lose our jobs.

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Messed Around Messed Up

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about partying  with coworker: After a lot of drinks, somehow someway a co-worker and I got a little carried away and ended up messing around in my car.

I went out to a going away event at a bar after work. So of course there was a bunch of employees and friends that attended. After a lot of drinks, somehow someway a co-worker and I got a little carried away and ended up messing around in my car. As far as I remember, we didn’t have sex. The next few days, we didn’t see each other but spoke about the whole incident.

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Workplace Relationship Break-Up

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about coworkers’ breakup:

Two of my coworkers were in a romantic relationship for two years. They have just had a bitter breakup. The male coworker gave lavish gifts, including a car, furniture, jewelry, etc to the female coworker. He is trying to get his stuff back but has been told by management to stay away from the female coworker during work hours. The female coworker will not speak to him about all the stuff he gave her. Does he have any rights to all the stuff he purchased?

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Right to Privacy or Defamation of Character

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a coworker breakup: He posted company and private e-mail to a 50-page power point presentation with page after page of e-mail.

A co-worker and I were dating. He broke up with me, and he designed a power point presentation about my supervisors and me. He posted company and private e-mail to a 50-page power point presentation with page after page of e-mail. The presentation was sent to upper management and business partners. He is a federal employee. Do I have defamation of character and right to privacy case?

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Did I Create A Hostile Work Environment?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about charge of harassment: About 6 weeks ago, she wrote a letter to the plant manager stating I have been harassing her, calling her certain derogatory names.

Over two years ago I dated a female co-worker for a period of 3 months. It ended briefly, and I haven’t had much contact with her since we work rotating shifts and rarely together. About 6 weeks ago, she wrote a letter to the plant manager stating I have been harassing her, calling her certain derogatory names. She listed a number of employees who allegedly heard me say these things. Upon hearing this, I started asking some of the people on the list if they have heard me say these things, all but one said absolutely not. The one who spoke against me told me I said, “The reason the co-worker and I broke up is because her roommate told me she had been sleeping around.” This is true, I did make that statement, but never once made any comments to her or to anyone that were demeaning or in any way false.

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