Coworker Is Causing Me Anxiety And Pain

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about: She claimed that another employee heard me say that I “I hate minorities.”

Six months ago I asked my coworker if she could “Please help a customer that had been waiting a while?” I would have helped the customer but my arms were full of merchandise that I was ticketing, and she was not busy at the time. She was so angry that I asked her to “Please help the customer” when she was done.

She came back to where I was placing the merchandise and leaned over me and yelled telling me that she would have helped the customer; she said, “I didn’t need to ask her and then proceeded to go into our boss’ office and call me a racist.” She claimed that another employee heard me say that I “I hate minorities.” So when my boss questioned this, the other employee of course said I didn’t say it because I DID NOT say it.

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Boss Bringing Up Religion During Evaluation

Question To Ask the Workplace Doctors about her/his religion.

Is it against the law for a boss to ask me if I am a Christian, And do I believe in Jesus, during a yearly review?

Signed, Am I ???

Dear Am I ???:

The important thing for you is not to think of this only in terms of the law, but of a boss-employee relationship. Don’t assume that the question is intended to do you harm. Likely it is well motivated. However, you can candidly respond to your boss, “Thank you for asking. I’m sure you mean well by asking, but I’m here to work and I will do my best whether I am a Christian or not.”

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What If I Am Discriminated Against?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about interns and discrimination.

What if a new workforce intern gets dirty looks and ignored at work, and they are new on the job, and they know they are part of the Workforce Investment Act Economic Stimulus Training Program. What should they do?

Signed, Discriminated

Dear Discriminated:

Get over it. Dirty looks and ignored? I guess it is possible to be ignored part of the day and get dirty looks the rest, and I can empathize with your feeling of not being welcomed and wanted. However, might it not be better to patiently soak up all the training available than to see yourself as victim?

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Complain to HR About Racist Remark?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about being offended at racist remarks:

I am white. I have family members and friends who are of various races. Recently a co-worker and manager made some racist remarks in my presence and one commented that I wouldn’t be offended because I am white. I was stunned and did not say anything at the time, but I was extremely offended. Am I justified in complaining to HR about this?

Signed, Offended

Dear Offended:

Based upon what you say happened, you would be justified in reporting the remarks to HR. The actual decision to do so may not be so easy. It most likely will depend upon the nature of the remarks, your relationship with the people who made the remarks and the policy of your company about such situations. I realize that some people might think you should certainly report such a thing, but I think the reality of the work situation should also be considered. For example, if you have had a good working relationship with your coworker and manager and they have always shown themselves to be positive, unbiased and ethical people, if this is the first time you have ever heard them say anything of this nature, and if the remark did not indicate they have acted in a biased way in their work, you may want not want to escalate it to the point that the coworker and manager would be disciplined or lose their jobs over it.

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Office of Manager Is Rudely Invaded by Subordinate

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a rude subordinate: A manager of two units finds his head of one unit fails to enforce reprimand of this individual. What should the manager do?

I am a manager in a department of a large international organization. My Department is divided in to two units. Recently an employee from the other unit came to my office and was looking for something pertaining to a common project that both units are working on. He was looking through boxes right next to my desk. I asked him what he was looking for and he mumbled something and left. My employee, who was also in the office, made a comment, “What’s wrong with him?”I responded, I don’t know, “It’s kinda rude to come in to someone’s office, go through things on their desk and not say a word”

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Diversity in the Workplace

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctor from someone in HR about a complaint from an employee feeling exclude due to language:  She mainly states she feel left out. Note: She is an attractive girl in an enviable job. My question is: how can I address this issue with staff about how their actions can stir a perception of discrimination.

I am in Human Resources and work for a company that is 78% Hispanic and 76% female. I had a white female complain that she feels left out among the other females in the office. She says they talk in and out of Spanish when she is around; don’t include her in social activities. She doesn’t come straight out and say they are discriminating against her, but I’m getting the impression this is how she is feeling. She says they haven’t said anything specific about her being white. She mainly states she feel left out. Note: She is an attractive girl in an enviable job. My question is: how can I address this issue with staff about how their actions can stir a perception of discrimination. What tips can I include in our company newsletter about diversity and cultural awareness?

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Racism

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about racist remarks by a coworker: Should I take it up with my immediate supervisor in private? Should I go ahead & send that letter to our VP? I’ve been nice & let it go, but it’s time to get her terminated.

I have a co-worker who sits right beside me in my office. I’ve heard her make racist remarks when she gets angry. She has made comments about sending Asians back on a ship, sending immigrants back to their home country since they know no English, & calling an Asian friend of mine a racial slur. I’ve been nice & let it go, but it’s time to get her terminated. I have a letter set up to send to our VP of Human Resources. She’s a nice person when she’s in a calm mood, but when her mood changes some of the stuff that comes out of her mouth can be offensive. Should I take it up with my immediate supervisor in private? Should I go ahead & send that letter to our VP? It’s a shame because I do get along with her, but…………it’s time for her to go. There’s no place for that stuff!

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Age And Abusive Working Environment???

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about age discrimination: The lower supervisor is always making reference to my age in front of other employees. He makes a point about it calling me Grandpa.

I believe that I’m working in an abusive working environment. The lower supervisor is always making reference to my age in front of other employees. He makes a point about it calling me Grandpa. My age is 47. He says that if I have a problem, to report about the incident, but not to send it to him. He stated there was nothing he could do about it anyway because he is the supervisor. He is a lower level supervisor.

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Type of Discrimination?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about age and race discrimination: I am 52 years of age, and a year ago at work, we had an office-wide meeting regarding our 401K plan. Our PA, NY, CA and OH offices were all on a conference call, and the CEO made a reference to people getting older and how they needed to plan for their retirement. He then called out my name, and said that I am one step away from being in a nursing home.

I am confused as to what type of discrimination case I may have and I would like your opinion on this…here are the facts: I am 52 years of age, and a year ago at work, we had an office-wide meeting regarding our 401K plan. Our PA, NY, CA and OH offices were all on a conference call, and the CEO made a reference to people getting older and how they needed to plan for their retirement. He then called out my name, and said that I am one step away from being in a nursing home.

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Thirty-two Years Discounted!

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about age discrimination: I’m over fifty and too young for retirement. They have me sitting in a room ten hours each day doing entry-level work.

The volatility of the U.S. economy is taking a large toll in the workplace. Mergers, acquisitions, reorganizations and staff reductions create a chaotic work world around us. We no longer understand the forces behind company decisions. In general, how do employees maintain their enthusiasm in the workplace, while coping with the stress of antiquated changes? These changes raise the question of fairness, and the terrible helpless feeling of the system failing us. Focusing on the situation of a current position and reassignment can overwhelm many workers.

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