Can I Cut The Mustard?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a challenge: I can’t do anything right, I am so insecure and feel so incompetent that I am making really silly mistakes like putting the wrong month on a huge email to everyone, or the right day but wrong date.

I have been at a job for almost 9 months now. Over that time I have found out that I have replaced two employees and do much more than they ever did.In addition these two employees evolved into the position I am in, over a 13-15 year time frame. There are so many moving parts that just getting the basics down took some time.

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My Work Reputation Is Being Ruined!

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about feelings of low status: The impression that I’m not good at my work has been subtle and given over time. I find myself ready to cry with frustration now at the drop of a hat

I have been a Business Analyst for approximately two years. I do not have a degree but spent many years in the mortgage and insurance industry. I am surrounded by younger workers with degrees.This doesn’t bother me at all but it does bother them. My boss’s boss is very difficult at best and calls the shots. So, my immediate boss is also at her mercy.

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How Can I Relate Better To My Supervisor?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about fear of supervisor:

There are times when I feel that my supervisor helps me because he has to, rather than wants to. To me, it looks as though he wants to help everyone else. Recently, I figured out why. It was because when I talk, I sound as though I am afraid of him (like I hate him {which is not the case}). I also realized that there are times that I am afraid to be in the same room with him. I am making an effort to have better interactions with him, but, at the same time, I still want to remain professional and not get too comfortable with him. How do I go about doing this?

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Depressed About Work

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about new job and feeling dumb and lonely:

I am a good worker and I did very well in school at my major, which was graphic design and such, with some computer science as well. I had a friend in my class at college get a nice job as a designer for a company. She graduated before me of course. After I had graduated and was looking for a job, there was an opening at her place and I applied and was basically a shoo-in thanks to her.

I like the job. I came in with strong confidence that I could learn it and do it just fine. I was told it would take at least 6 months to a year at the longest to get the hang of it since the job has a high learning curve. It is a very detail oriented job. It seemed I made mistake after mistake, and yes I noticed I have improved a lot since the beginning, but I basically lost my confidence.

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Want My Old Job Back

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about promotion, new boss, and feeling of uncertainty: I want to get the previous job back because I have given it a lot, even though I have made some mistakes in the past

I have been working in a large scale company for two years in a mid-level managment position. Two months ago I was called in to the office of my boss with whom I have a very open relationship. He explained to me about a new department that was going to be opened world wide and that I was thought of being a part of this department. I was happy at first and glad to be away from heavy operational work load that I was holding for two years and I told him that I was going to be happy to work with him in this position.

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Friend Copied Me By Opening A Competing Business!

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about copy of business: I still love what I do and have sincerely tried to focus on that alone. But, I continue to obsess about the situation.

My best friend of many years, now former best friend, has gone into retail business selling identical merchandise as mine. As friends do so often, I shared the growing pains of the business and over the years she saw eventually saw me prosper. My husband who is a good judge of character never quite warmed up to her and felt she was using me due to a series of incidents over the years. He gave her the nickname “Two Faced Tamara”.

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Direct and Indirect Counseling

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about counseling:

When do I use indirect and direct forms of counseling with my employees?

Signed, Wondering

Dear Wondering:

Those terms, direct and indirect counseling, are most often used to refer to guidance and mentoring activities at work. If you are helping an employee decide about something or just helping an employee think through a problem or situation, you do direct counseling if you give him or her specific advice. You provide indirect counseling if, through questions and discussion, the employee is encouraged to think through the situation and make a decision.

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Only Woman and Left Out

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about being excluded: Should I rise above the insult and maintain my focus on the job or should I speak up?

I work in a firm with two partners. One has continued to exclude me in luncheons, after hour affairs, and general discussions regarding the workplace. After three years, I attributed this exclusion to the fact that I was the only professional female in the office. I am known as a hard working, loyal and respected professional. Recently, another woman was hired, thankfully, and was welcomed in the partner’s circle of choice. Should I rise above the insult and maintain my focus on the job or should I speak up?

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Getting The Opportunity To Prove I’m Competent

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about career progress: I need some advice as to what my next step should be here or how to bring up the subject and tell them how much more I can do (and how bored I am with what I am doing) without sounding like I think what I’m doing is beneath me or anything?

I’ve been at my new job for 9 mos. However, I have almost 5 years of experience in my prior job doing the exact same thing. I work in a small office, with two bosses (partners) and one other co-worker. In the past 9 months, neither boss has given me any extra responsibility.  Although, I have experience in all aspects of what our company does, and I am damn good at all of them. I am only allowed responsibility for one thing everyday, which I can do in my sleep.

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