Should I Leave Because Of A Fellow Employee?

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I have worked for almost 5 years at my job and received several recognition bonuses for my work. I have been assuming a greater responsibility and role in a job that a fellow employee was initially designated to perform. She now resents my new responsibilities, and I often overhear her making critical comments about my work to other employees. She has been very confrontational to me in business meetings to the point where I think she is trying to get me to react in a physical manner.

I have complained to my supervisor and other management representatives about what I deem to be unprofessional behavior. They ignore my concerns to the point that they say I should just confront this employee and let her know that I do not appreciate her behavior. I see their response as condoning bad behavior.

I am actually thinking of leaving a job that I really enjoy because of this individual. This job has many opportunities for me. What should I do? Give notice and hope they take notice of my concerns.

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Can I Stop Embarrassing Teasing By A Co-worker?

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Every time I have to visit the executive office downstairs the head exec’s secretary dials my Ex. Everyone in the workplace knows he left me and moved to one of our international offices. She then proceeds to talk loudly pretending she needs a report or response from him with “Hi, Roberto…. Oh Roberto stop it, now Roberto”…saying his name like 20 times in the conversation.

I’ve observed her conversation with other male managers on the phone, and she doesn’t say their names repeatedly, which tells me she is doing this on purpose. I’ve already emailed my Ex since we are on friendly terms and told him anytime she does this it’s probably because I’m there. The thing is I’m really getting tired of this, not because I’m jealous but because it’s plain annoying. I confronted her nicely a few months ago, and it stopped, but it started back up again when she needed something and I didn’t drop everything and do it right away.

I’m the type that I hold things in for along time and then blow up which I’m afraid is what will happen soon if I don’t do something about it. Thanks for your help.

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Older Co-worker Is Angry At Me!

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I work with a lady that has a lot of anger towards me because she does not want to do new things. She’s an older lady. So the boss will ask me to do the work. This makes her very angry. So she nit picks at little things. For instance, this week she was angry because she claimed that our printer used to print in color till I started to place the orders. It only prints in black. It’s so many little thing, like how I write out the name on the Bank deposit slips. My boss is a friend of hers, and she doesn’t seem to like it that the boss gives me the work that she doesn’t want to do. So I am learning a lot more, and now she belittles me and is angry. How can I help her to get rid of this anger so we can work together in peace?

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My Co-worker Is The Boss’s Favorite!

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I need another opinion. I work in an office in which the boss is an ass kisser and so is the boss’s favorite. This person comes to work in sneakers everyday, is rude to customers, and thinks that because she is the favorite can call into question anything and everything even when it has nothing to do with her. She has even gone as far as talking to an elderly employee with total disrespect. My issue is that “the favorite” recently threatened to leave the organization, and they gave her a 10K retention bonus to do the same work that we all do and was just given a 2K bonus for what I cannot figure out while the other hard workers were given time-off award, myself included.

Recently our supervisor had a birthday, the “favorite” suggests that we all get together and do something for him, and then proceeds to add the comment “with all they have done for us, he can have anything he wants”. I immediately thought, “what do you mean us when you seem to be the only one reaping any benefits”. The supervisor, always compliments me on doing great work and how appreciative he is, but I feel like he just says all of this all in an attempt to “blow smoke up my a#$”.

My concern is this, how do I continue to work in a place where no matter how hard you work, if it will never be enough? Please help…I feel like I am forced to deal with a bunch of vultures.

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Can’t Get Rid Of A Co-worker!

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My question concerns an irritating coworker. Eight months ago he decided to show up at my desk and just chat. I sent him away many times, and he would politely leave only to return again to chat. I usually ignore him and keep on working because I can’t afford to stop working as a result of his persistent behavior.

A few months ago, our Manager wrote a detailed letter to him stating that he needed to leave my workspace. The coworker did for a while but edged his way back, and now I spend a lot of time being sending him away. My problem is that I don’t want him to lose his job, but my managers want to know what I’m doing to entice this man back to my desk. I am an assertive person but clueless as to how to entice him out of my workspace. This man is socially abstract in the sense that he spends two hours or more attempting chat sessions with me, reads for three hours, and has very poor work ethics. I do not want him in my workspace.

I’m going to ask him to leave my workspace for good, as he has no business there. What are the chances his behavior will be dangerous? I work alone in a basement down several floors. I’m not sure I’m safe telling him to “leave for good” at my somewhat vulnerable workspace. Am I acting like a victim for no reason?

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Can’t Meet Deadlines Because Of Co-worker!

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For the past several years a coworker has not been doing her job and it has started to affect my job. I have gotten in trouble for not meeting deadlines, but it is due to the coworker not completing her part. I am not authorized to do her job, so I must wait for her to complete the work.

I have talked with her, my boss, her boss, and the bosses’ boss. For some reason they refuse to deal with her. I make sure that I information all parties when my job will be delayed because of her not completing her part. I hate having to tell customers that I am behind and will complete the work as soon as possible. Others have complained and still nothing is done. I work for a very large company and upper management levels are located in other states, but I have submitted paperwork to them advising status and still nothing has changed. This problem has gone on for years and yet nothing has changed and has even gotten worse. It has gotten so bad, that my own health has suffered. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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Co-Worker Or Micro-supervisor???

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I have a co-worker/supervisor (that has never really been made clear to me which) who interviewed me for a job in payroll/accounts payable in a small company. She got approval from her boss to hire me. After I started the job, I was in an office by myself. Shortly after, the higher-ups moved her into my office. She is a complete miro-manager. She will nitpick and criticize every mistake you make. She is hateful to customers on the phone and to other employees, constantly saying how ignorant and incompetent they are when they are not around. She is 64, has worked here since 1976 and knows the company in and out. Her attitude is horrible. I really like the job, however, and do not want to quit, nor do I want to go to the bosses to complain as I have only been here a little over a year and feel that if her attitude has been like this for this long and they have not done anything to council her about it, they probably won’t even if I ask them to.

Several other employees have problems with her and she does things that could get the company in legal trouble like making racial slurs and giving out too much information to people that call asking about former employees. I really need some advice on how to deal with her.

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My Co-worker Threatened Me!

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A co-worker shared a bunch of information about a friend and colleague of mine that I thought wasn’t just. I informed her of it so she could snip it in the bud if it weren’t true. She went and talked to her and they settled the issue. A couple days later, I was working with the nurse that divulged this information and she flat out says I was purposely trying to start crap and she would no longer stand up or help me with anything at work.

Then she proceeded to complain about me to others all night long without using my name. She wanted to switch days off, but I couldn’t because I had already made plans. Then when our relief came in, she made a comment to our coworkers about being pissed off at someone and how she goes after the people that piss her off. She’s very opinionated and thinks everyone should bend for her. She thinks I should keep quiet and not say a word cause I’m much younger that her and am at her daughter’s age. How should I handle her? I don’t need the trouble. I have a kid to raise. My mom used to work with her and didn’t get along either and spent a lot of time in the boss’s office.

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Shocked By Co-worker Alienation!

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Please help in any way possible, this is a highly complicated issue that is also very stupid. I am an American male, working for an American contract company, outsourced to an American Investment Bank located in Japan. I made friends with a Japanese female coworker; our friendship was 100% non-romantic. We got into an argument at work, and she asked me to stop bothering her at work. I apologized, and left her alone. She complained to her boss. Later that night she sent me a personal email (home email to home email), indicating that she was sorry for complaining to her boss, that she wanted to remain friends, and that there was some misunderstandings between us. I replied (home email to home email) and told her that I would also like to remain friends and clear up any misunderstandings.

The next day her boss complained to my boss. I explained to my boss what happened, and everything seemed to be fine. I left her alone at work. I received another email from her over the following weekend (home email home email) explaining her position and where she believed our misunderstandings were. I replied with a similar email (there was no animosity on either end).

The next week when I returned to work, there was another complaint from her supervisor. Basically I was continuing to contact her at home, even after I was asked to leave her alone. The first complaint was easy to explain and caused no serious problems for my position, company, or my office relationships. It took three days to sort out as she refused to accept that I would leave her alone (though I was never allowed an audience supervised or unsupervised with her).

The few people in my office, who were friendly to me, are now openly hostile, I was expecting a wage increase (per the terms of my contract) and that was denied. My credibility in my company has decreased, and to tell you the truth it’s really hard to come to work. I also believe that she will not be satisfied until I am fired, though at this point I may be paranoid. Is there anything that you can recommend I do? Or anyplace I can go to find out more about my rights? Thanks.

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Should I Have My Computer Scanned?

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I recently returned from a business trip to Ohio. As a practical joke, some colleagues turned everything in my office upside down. I thought this was amusing. I then went to turn my computer on and discovered that someone had hacked onto my computer and installed an offensive screensaver, which was of course upside-down. They took a guess at my password and were successful.

I sent an e-mail complaining to my group (including our boss) explaining that while I found the disarray in office amusing, I did not appreciate someone going onto my computer. It is possible that whomever hacked onto my computer could have been involved in including downloading prohibited documents or visiting forbidden Internet sights. My colleagues are now upset with me for complaining – insisting I cannot take a joke. I am tempted to ask our IT department to run a scan on my computer and share with this information with HR and also let them know I was out of town when this activity occurred.

As far as I am concerned–only people who should have access to my computer at work are my direct supervisor, and his superiors and the folks in our IT department. Am I wrong to think this? Are there any laws on the books to prevent such hacking or unauthorized uses of an employee’s computer by his co-workers?

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