My Boss is Also My Brother-In-Law and He Is Becoming More Angry and Controlling

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a potentially violent boss/brother-in-law. 

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Question: I work for my sister’s husband. He’s an angry, controlling man who has been worse of late. After an incident where he was screaming at her, calling her a B**** and threatening to commit suicide, he was take away in handcuffs and all of his guns were confiscated, but he played nice with the mental health folks and released. I told her not to be home when he got home, so she moved in with me. He told me if she divorced him, he’d fire me, but right after she had him served, both of his other employees quit, so he’s had to rely on me and couldn’t fire me. Last week he casually, totally out of nowhere, told me that he’d gotten a concealed weapon permit. When I mentioned it to my sister, she recalled a recent incident where they were with mutual friends and he told them that he’d had the weirdest dream, that he’d awakened in the night and thought there was an intruder in my sister’s bedroom, so he got a gun and went into her bedroom, and there was no one there, and then he’d wakened in her bedroom– and wasn’t that a funny dream? No one laughed.

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Humiliated In Front of Customers

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about: He told me sit down, be quiet he was going to tell me how it is. I said, “Can I please say something?” He said “Be quiet I don’t want to hear you.”

I work at a large store in the electronics department. We are short handed, but we are constantly getting pulled to the registers up front to help out. Today when asked to go to register I said, “I can’t right now we are too busy.” The next thing I know, the manager is in my face yelling at me in front of associates and customers, telling me he is the boss and if he tells me to do something I better do it if I want to keep working there. He had me in tears I was shaking. He told me sit down, be quiet he was going to tell me how it is. I said, “Can I please say something?” He said “Be quiet I don’t want to hear you.” No one there knows my past, but my first husband was physically and mentally abusive to me. All I could see was my ex’s face as I was being berated. I don’t even want to go back there. Please help me, I can’t quit crying.

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