Overly-friendly Co-worker – Sexual or Not?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about sexual tone: By “friendly” I mean he touches younger female co-workers (including me) on the shoulder, he puts his arms around their shoulders while walking, he rubs their arms, holds them by the arm, asks for hugs or just spontaneously hugs, stands way too close when talking,

I looked through your archives but would appreciate more specific advice on this matter. I have a co-worker (he’s the IT guy) who has always been extremely friendly. By “friendly” I mean he touches younger female co-workers (including me) on the shoulder, he puts his arms around their shoulders while walking, he rubs their arms, holds them by the arm, asks for hugs or just spontaneously hugs, stands way too close when talking, comes up behind and grabs people by the shoulders or waist. Only when speaking with younger women, he speaks in a soft, moaning, almost baby-like voice (think Marilyn Monroe). He also dresses quite inappropriately. He bikes to work in a spandex body suit and will often come around and do his touching and rubbing in a very sweaty and out-of breath state. When he finally gets changed, he wears skin-tight athletic clothes or shirts that are unbuttoned to expose his chest.

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