What Can I Do to Prevent a Repeat of Problem Behavior By a Colleague Toward Younger Staff?

A Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors: What should I do to ensure my staff
is treated appropriately by someone
who has behaved inappropriately in the past?  

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Question:  
I have a male colleague who has placed several junior staff (15-20+ years younger; mostly but not entirely female) in uncomfortable situations over the years: getting drunk to the point that they have to take him home to his wife since he can’t stand up straight (injuring themselves accidentally in the process), calling female colleagues while drunk and then lying to his wife about who he’s talking to, getting drunk in front of clients and having colleagues need to “clean up” after (including both helping him as he throws up as well as dealing with the clients), and so on.

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I’m Afraid of a Coworker Who Wrote Angry Remarks On Facebook

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors: What should I do about
an obsessive coworker who vented his anger about me on Facebook? 

Question:

I have been working at a grocery store for about 3 months now. All was going well till this guy I work with posted a “song” on Facebook that he wrote talking about me and how I was smart and I was beautiful, I have only ever said “Hi. How are you?” to him. The next day he messaged me telling me these things and more like he’s been “thinking of me for weeks.” I replied to this “That’s cool. Thanks”.

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What Can I Do About A Coworker Who Says My Work Overshadows His?

A Question for Ask the Workplace Doctors:
What can I do to get along better with a coworker
who accuses me of overshadowing his work? 

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Question:
I have been working with this group in a creative arts position in a company working on a group project. It is very team oriented, and a very competitive workplace. At the same time we all, for the most part, work together like gears with little friction. A coworker I am going to call James has told me numerous times that he is tired of creating work just for it to be overshadowed by something I have contributed, and wants to surrender working for the company because he feels anything he contributes will be looked at as inferior compared to mine. I have tried all types of methods to support James and help boost his confidence in his abilities, by bumping it above mine to be reviewed instead of some of my ideas, working with him under the guise that I want to learn things from him, and constantly make positive, but not overbearing compliments on his work on a week to week basis. [Trying to make sure I don’t smother him].

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My Friend Became An Irritating Coworker. Now What?

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about how to deal with a friend
who is also an irritating coworker.

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Question: 
A couple of years back, my friend was not in a great place mentally so when a job came up at my workplace, I got her in.  She worked as a caterer/ school kitchen assistant before, so I thought a change into office administrative work would help her.

Why does it irritate me so much that she soon became a different person–patronizing me, thinking she is more than she is, strutting around the place. I can’t bear her presence in my workplace and I’ve always loved my job. It’s making me crazy.

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Coworker and Former Friend Accused My Husband of Verbal Abuse

A Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a situation between coworkers who were close friends but now are in conflict about a personal issue that resulted in a confrontation at work.

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Question:

I have been friends with my coworker for four years. She lived in my home for three months when she had nowhere else to go. We have spent holidays together that included her family and mine. Almost a month ago she decided to change everything.

It started off with my husband and I kicking out my daughters’ boyfriend (my daughter is now 18 and her boyfriend is now 19) He had been living with us for about a year and a half after he got my daughter pregnant. We took him in, even though it caused us a financial burden. My coworker “friend” was asked by my daughter if her boyfriend could stay with her during work days for two weeks until the house they wanted to rent was ready.

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Overbearing Coworker

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a new older overbearing coworker:

I work in a school where I oversee a caseload of students. I am well liked by my students, parents, and I’m seen as a good worker. Last year we had a new counselor join the team and she is older. She frequently inserts herself into my projects when I haven’t asked her for help nor has my boss asked her to help me. If I don’t include her in my work she complains that she doesn’t feel included and that I’m being territorial. I’m doing my regular work duties that pertain to my caseload and extra projects that I volunteered to do. She has her own caseload of students to work with but always seems preoccupied with what I am doing.

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Co-Workers Angry That My Complaint Led to a Termination

A question to the Workplace Doctors about how to respond to anger over the termination of a coworker.

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I have worked with a toxic coworker for three years. Recently he brought a knife to work and threatened me with it. My company investigated and terminated him. Now a few of my teammates are angry at me and there have been insinuations that I went to HR because of the other employee’s race. Some say I was motivated by jealousy. How do I handle the aftermath like a professional?

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Coworker Doesn’t Follow Up, Has Sick Wife

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a coworker who fails to follow up and leaves work for me to do.

I have been working as a market researcher for a small company for the past six years. The company’s sales had been drastically increasing since I was hired. Three months ago my boss decided to hire a second market researcher to help me with my heavy workload and ever since he was hired, the sales have been declining. I am the only employee that knows my work partner is taking on clients request but not following up to complete the work. He has been expressing his frustration with his job to me because he is constantly thinking of his wife who is ill in the hospital.

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Complaint About A Co-Worker Was Unintentional!

Question to Ask The Workplace Doctors:
Complaint about a coworker was unintentional!

“How can I tell my boss I didn’t mean to complain about my co-worker?”

I had a mandatory one on one meeting with my boss recently to go over how I was doing since being hired 4 short months ago.  It was a rushed meeting because we spent most of it going over the company website, then had 2 minutes left to go over my numbers and open questions/concerns.

In the process of discussing my work I informed her that I noticed a co-worker who has really high numbers is because she does not take a lunch. After much protesting of not telling my boss who it was, she said since I brought it up, she needed to know.

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Disturbing Behavior By Co-Worker

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a co-worker who shows disturbing behavior:

Question:

I have feverishly searched your extensive archive looking for answers to this dilemma. Nothing quite answers this situation. I have just started working in a new job, about 8 months now. About 3 or 4 months in, a male coworker (please note that this coworker is older than I am), who I knew very little about, started talking to me. Being relatively new to the office, I looked at his behavior (very initially) as friendly. A helping hand so to speak.

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