Can I Get In Trouble for Sex with the CEO?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about an affair: When I started work in July I was instantly attracted to our 39 year old owner/CEO of the company I work for.

I am a 24 year old woman who works as an accounting specialist. When I started work in July I was instantly attracted to our 39 year old owner/CEO of the company I work for. I found out in September that he just finalized his divorce and we started texting. One night after the bar things went further and we ended up having sex. My direct boss (CFO) found out that we had been texting and HR talked to me about how it is a really bad idea to be with the CEO and I should no longer text or call him. We have no rules on not being allowed to date within the company. I want to know if I can now get fired because of the relationship between me and the owner? I also would like to know if he can get in trouble at all? I really don’t want either of us to get in trouble since it was consensual. We both go to work do our jobs and remain professional while at work. I personally don’t think what we do outside of work should matter. However, I love my job and don’t want to lose it. read more

Vice President sleeping with a subordinate

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a long-time affair: How much hot water would I be in if I bring this to the attention of the President of the company? I too am a VP but not of the same department.

It was brought to my attention that the Vice President of our company has had an off again on again relationship with an employee for 20 years. This employee has been a problem, but never seems to get reprimanded. It is a small business of 50-55 people. How much hot water would I be in if I bring this to the attention of the President of the company? I too am a VP but not of the same department. read more

I Think I Love My Boss!

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about  falling in love with the boss:

I am unhappily married and have fallen in love with my boss who I think is single. I’m not sure how he feels but I know there is some attraction there.

Signed, Got A Crush

Dear Got A Crush:

We’re a workplace communication site rather than a love advice site, but I can give you a bit of advice that will help you with your job as well as your personal life: No good; and probably a lot of harm; will come from you telling your boss that you are in love with him, at least at this point.What you have really is a crush. read more

How To Find Out If My Boss Shares My Feelings

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about more than friends: We were the ones who practically started the company operations. However, as days have passed, we are becoming closer. I’m a bit afraid of that.

My boss and I are good friends. Perhaps, it’s because we were the ones who practically started the company operations. However, as days have passed, we are becoming closer. I’m a bit afraid of that.We sometimes have lunch together, share foods, and talk about personal things over a dinner. I am like the only person he trusts with regards to company properties and all that. I do overtime because of workloads, with me and him alone in the office. read more

Should I Report My Husband Affair To HR?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a husband’s affair: Should I send an anonymous letter to his HR department and report the affair?

A few months ago I received a phone call that my husband was having an affair with a coworker and her name was given to me. I also saw in his phone bills that he has been texting and calling her cell number many times during the day. He has now changed is password to the phone bill and doesn’t allow me to see it. I also saw him writing to her on Facebook. He claims she is just a friend. Should I send an anonymous letter to his HR department and report the affair? According to the company rules an affair within the dept is not acceptable. read more

Fired For Kissing In Workplace?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about kissing at work:

A male was caught kissing/groping a female workmate in the canteen area during a break. They are both now being disciplined by the HR department for inappropriate behaviour. Can they be fired over this or what would be the normal procedure?

Signed, Concerned

Dear Concerned:

What happens about this will probably depend upon many things, unless there is a policy in place that requires certain sanctions automatically. (I doubt that there is for something like this.) Here are some of the things management will likely consider: read more

Should My Husband’s Boss Know About His Affair?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a husband’s affair with an employee: She doesn’t seem to care that she is a home-wrecker. I feel his store manager should know what is going on.

My husband, who is a dept manager at Wal-Mart, has decided to have an affair with an employee who likes to break up marriages. We have two children, and I feel like his employer should know of what this woman is capable. She doesn’t seem to care that she is a home-wrecker. I feel his store manager should know what is going on. read more

Sex And Career Advancement

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about  an apparently attractive woman who has slept her way up: I don’t want her to be my boss because I will do all her work and get no promotion.

I work in large corporation, which has written rules prohibiting sex and relationship in the workplace. My young blond coworker has advanced herself from assistant to senior technical position without any experience in 3 years. Her ex-manager spent more than $50,000 of company money sending her for training, but she learned nothing. She has dated at least 4 married VPs to get promotion. She has broken 2 marriages and a VP secretly married her against company policy. Since she has neither skills nor experience, she uses men coworkers or even the some VPs to do her job and takes all credit. She uses her power of gets rid of anybody she doesn’t like. Even though she’s married, she still flirts or does whatever it take to get ahead and secure her position. read more

How Do I Deal With My Attraction For My Boss?

Question to Ask the Workplace  Doctors about attraction to boss:

For nearly a year, I have been terrified of my supervisor because I have more than professional feelings for him. We have a good working relationship and I don’t want anything to ruin it, but, every day, I find it hard to hide my feelings. How do I deal?

Signed, More Than Professional

Dear More Than Professional:

It is good that you can differentiate between professional behavior and personal feelings. Now you need to define what communication and action transgress the boundaries that should be maintained between them. It is not uncommon for us to be attracted for someone with whom we work. We are not machines. We have drives and fantasies. We often interpret each others’ verbal and non-verbal acts as interests that go beyond the job. Therefore you are wise to understand those feelings that well up in you.You don’t say if either or both of you have significant others or are married. This fact is information that you should learn if you do not know it now. Nor have you said if you superior has made playful advances that have encouraged your personal feelings for him. However you might respond to those whether your feelings might cross the boundaries of marriage or have been encouraged, your question recognizes that your feelings might “ruin” a good working relationship. read more

Should I Report Boss-Employee Relationship?

Question to Ask the Workplace  Doctors about a supervisor involvement and favoritism to a coworker: What bothers me is that I’ve approached him a couple of times in regards to the co-worker’s work performance and my supervisor for obvious reasons is covering for her.

My supervisor is the one who hired me two years ago. He has started a relationship with one of my co-workers. What bothers me is that I’ve approached him a couple of times in regards to the co-worker’s work performance and my supervisor for obvious reasons is covering for her. He also covers for her in meetings, and I’m 90% sure that he gave her the same raise I received, even though she is on Facebook and MSN messenger or shopping online all day. read more