Accused of Having a Bad Attitude.

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about performance based on attitude.

My supervisor gave me my evaluation form to fill in for my mid-year review; I made some comments on there about him saying I didn’t think he was any good. Now he is accusing me of having a bad attitude, which has only come up with. I was going to speak to my manager but don’t know if it’s more trouble than it’s worth or should I apologize to my supervisor and just get on with it.

Signed, Confront Him or Apologize? read more

Given Second Warning

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about warnings: My new supervisor, who started four months ago, doesn’t like me and is trying to get rid of me. At first it was a gut feeling, now it is a fact.

I never thought I would be in this place. I have worked for this organization for over five years with always good performances, an award, raises and commendations from my supervisors. My new supervisor, who started four months ago, doesn’t like me and is trying to get rid of me. At first it was a gut feeling, now it is a fact. She is seeking out my mistakes (of course I am not perfect), so she finds them and she sets me up to fail. In less than three months, I had three warnings. Besides trying to be perfect and looking for another job, what do you think I should do? Should I resign before she fires me? I am really scared, and I am under a lot of stress trying to be perfect. She also has double standards. She requires of me things she doesn’t from others and she herself fails to do. Please tell me what can I do? read more

Send Performance Review to Potential Employer?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about sending a performance review:

Is it okay to send a copy of your performance review to a potential employer after a bad reference from a former manager?

Signed, Wondering

Dear Wondering:

Yes, it’s a great idea to save performance reviews for just such reasons. Even if you didn’t have a bad reference, nothing will sell your self-talk so much as positive formal evaluations you received. So, excellent idea! When you send it, the accompanying letter or email should be professional and without serious negative comments about the former supervisor. Just say that you are aware of the negative reference and sorry about it because it doesn’t reflect the work you did. Then you can say that the attached evaluation was submitted formally and represented not only your real ability but the views of your supervisor and the approving manager. (Or whatever fits the situation.) Then, you could add a sentence or two to say that you will perform at the same high levels in the new job.Best wishes in your job search! read more

How Can I Ask How I Am Doing?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about performance.

How do I ask my supervisor how I am doing? Also, how do I ask if there are ways that I can do things better?

Signed, Wanting Feedback

Dear Wanting Feedback:

Many people ask their supervisor, “How am I doing?” when what they want to say is, “Reassure me again.” Asking repeatedly about how you’re doing can come across as needy and problematic, so it should be a limited request. It’s true that sometimes that is a good way to open a dialogue about work. However, usually when such a question is asked, it’s because the person asking senses they are in trouble or not doing well. Another problem is that asking, “How am I doing?” may be too general a question. Someone may be doing well with the technical parts of work but not so well in dealing with coworkers. Or, they are doing well with communications but not so well with punctuality.Consider this approach to getting feedback:1. Ask for feedback about work that is unusual for you or that is presenting a challenge. Or, ask about work when you have been counseled for improvement and you want to see if your improvement efforts have helped.Usually you will be viewed more positively if you self-evaluate based on what you know to be job standards and the priorities of your manager. If you are frequently engaged in conversations about work you will probably have a good idea about how your manager feels about you and your productivity and performance and you won’t need to ask him about it often, if at all.Best wishes. read more

Defamatory Statements

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about attitude: I have not got a bad attitude, and never have had. I have been praised for my teaching, my flexibility etc. I am upset that this man, whom I have worked alongside for seven years, should suddenly strike out at me.

I work as a teacher, and, as with all schools, an inspection is looming on the horizon. Management employed an “inspection expert” to cast his knowing eye over the school, and to talk to the whole staff about the fun to come. I went to the meeting, but, with a fever of 102 degrees, sat with my coat on and my arms folded. I also left ten minutes before the end, apologizing as I had made an emergency doctor’s appointment, and needed to go. I was diagnosed with pneumonia, and had ten days off work, suffering. read more

Employee Development Planning

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about leadership.

Areas I would like to in=mprove in as a Lead, Supply Technician.

Signed, Wanting Some Ideas

Dear Wanting Some Ideas:

Hello and thanks for contacting us. I’m glad you’re asking about professional development, because I would like for you to look at your question (really, just a statement not even a question) as you wrote it. Consider what your Number One developmental need might be! I think you will see that it is probably in communications in general and written communications, specifically. I say that with a good heart and a smile, and want you to know that many people have similar improvement needs–but the improvement can be accomplished with some work and extra effort.You are apparently a Supply Technician who would like to become a Lead (Supervisory or Team Leader Role) or you are currently a Team Leader or Senior Supply Technician and have been asked to develop some professional development plans for yourself. This might be part of regular evaluation programs in your organization or it could be you have been asked to do this as a way to improve your performance. read more

Boss States I Make Other Employees Feel Bad

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about one’s effect on coworkers:

What do you do when your boss accuses of making co-workers feel bad and they do not want to come to work because of you?

Signed, Baaaad

Dear Baaaad:

What do you do? You ask, “Why?” Perhaps you did ask why, but did not ask for specifics. Was it because you criticized them? Gossiped? Were bossy? Acted superior? Yelled at them? Rolled your eyes? Pointed fingers? Shook your head at their performance? Ignore their requests for help? Lie to them? Talked down? read more

Does It Sound Like My Job Is In Jeopardy?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about demeanor: I was told that staff had said I had been abrupt and nervous acting lately.

I had an appointment with my Director of Nursing for a work appraisal. Instead I was told that staff had said I had been abrupt and nervous acting lately. I’ve had recent work stress so I admitted I’ve been nervous but denied being abrupt. She also raised that I was reportedly abrupt at handover(a year ago).I feel more stress, picked on and humiliated. I am not abrupt to colleagues. I have a recent injury but still maintain normal duties. Are they trying to get rid of me? read more

Thinking Of Work On Weekends

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about work when away from it.

I feel as though I can’t stop thinking about work, even on the weekends. Every weekend, I am miserable because I think about what happened during that week. No matter what I do, I always think that I can do better. I do try to focus on my work, but I wonder if that’s enough.

Signed, It’s Work, Work, Work

Dear It’s Work, Work, Work:

It’s 9:07 Saturday night! What’s wrong about that? That is the time I have looked at Ask The Workplace Doctors and received your question. Again, I ask you what’s wrong about that? Answer: that is the time you sent your question and that is the time I received it–You are focusing on work on Saturday night rather than doing something that you especially enjoy. Your Saturday night question is not all wrong because it means you are facing up to the fact that thinking about work on a weekend indicates your life is not in balance. By asking this question you are voicing the symptom of an unhappy life. You spell that out when you say: “Every weekend, I am miserable because I think about what happened during that week” and you add “No matter what I do, I always think that I can do better. I do try to focus on my work, but I wonder if that’s enough.” read more

My Boss Hates Me

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a boss who hates him/her:

I got into my current job only a couple months ago. Since day one, I sensed my direct boss does not like me. Some instances: 1) On day two, before my computer and IT access rights were set up, she suddenly asked me if I had “already” spoken to some person from another department. She behaved as though I knew who this person is and what issue was at hand. When I explained that IT had not given me any access rights yet (therefore I cannot see the contact listing), she gave me a “tch” and roll her eyes. read more