Not Promoted Due To Reprisal for a Harassment Complaint I Made in the Past

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about how to show that being passed over for promotion is reprisal for a harassment complaint made eight years ago.


Eight years ago I filed a sexual harassment complaint against my manager for making unwarranted physical contact with me and it was my word against his. The end result was that he was removed from the office and given the option to retire, being that he was eligible.

I have been with the company for 21 years and have been a model employee, never call in nor do I have any disciplinary action in my file. I have applied for many positions for the last eight years, only to be denied. I have detailed (acted in positions) in several departments, received a good report upon completion and then denied upon interviewing for upward mobility. Some departments I have detailed in more than once.

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Lying To Excuse An Absence

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about lying to explain an absence: How to I do more that apologize that I lied?

Today I was to have orientation for work, and there is no interview process, just to make it clear. Anyways orientation was at 6:30 2:30 p.m. I totally forgot about it, and I woke up at 7:00 a. m. and then I remembered I was missing it. So out of nervousness, I emailed my HR representative and said I had a death in the family and I couldn’t attend today. They replied saying it was okay and that they would reschedule.

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What Should I Say About New Job?

Question for Ask the Workplace Doctors regarding telling current boss about a new job: “My boss doesn’t want people to leave and has given bad references to keep them here. What should I say about a new job?

I have had an up and down relationship with my boss. I finally found another job and I plan on giving notice soon (upon written receipt of the offer of the new job). However, I am wary of saying where I am going.

My boss has made clear that she does not want employees to leave. In fact, when former employees left, she put in calls to the new employer to question who the references were (specifically at the organization). Almost every employee states the new employer’s name upon resignation (most of these employees had good relations). My office is really gossipy and my fear is that by withholding this information, it’s going to create more gossip and a “search” to find out where I am going.

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Stressed, Overloaded, Overwhelmed

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about stress: What should I do to cope with the load before me?

I am currently up for a promotion at work. I am finishing up my Bachelor’s degree and working full time. However, I am feeling very overwhelmed. I graduate in May so I only have a few more months before I am “free” of school. How do I address this situation with my employer without hindering my advancement opportunity?


Dear Overwhelmed:

You are not alone in feeling overloaded. Why? Because we require too much of ourselves; often we carry a full or over load of courses in our hurry to be “free” of school while working part or as you do work full time in our determination not to be trapped by school debt. In addition, we may have car, credit card and rent payments! That leaves little to no room for exercise or personal life. In short that’s not a way to live and to live long.

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Career Advice For A College Grad

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about career advice for a college grad: 

I am a 23 year old university student. I am currently a senior and have hopes of graduating by next fall. I have had numerous part-time jobs in the past, but have not worked for about a year. Some of the jobs include working at a window installer and a restaurant.  The problem I am experiencing has to do with communicating with future employers about my past work.

One of the questions I have concerns my resume. How should I list the contacts for these jobs? Or should I even mention working at these places? What other things should I put on my resume?

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Attitude Problem

Questionto Ask the Workplace Doctors about being outspoken: How do I move up if I am perceived to have an attitude problem because I speak up?

Hello doctors! I have been having a problem at my workplace. I am a server for the my Pub and Eatery, and I have been the head trainer-server for a while. I am outspoken and very opinionated which I believe is the reason I got my promotion in the first place.

However, I’ve been trying to move up further in rank, but my managers say I have an attitude and challenge authority. How am I suppose to move up in ranks if I cannot share my opinions and ideas. I believe it is the reason I’ve gotten so far in the first place. Please give me some advice on what to do about this issue. It would be greatly appreciated. Thank You

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Grad Asks About Maintaining Personal Relationships

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about maintaining personal relationships with a professional career: 


I am about to graduate from college soon and look forward to beginning my professional career. However, throughout my time at school I have been working two jobs which I will have to give up once I transition to a full-time career. I currently work as both a server and a nanny and I have grown very attached to the owners/co-workers at my restaurant job and the family I work for while babysitting. How do I quit these jobs and still maintain the personal relationships?

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Pay Vs Other’s Pay

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about asking coworker about her/his pay: What should I say?

A co-worker, who’s been on the job longer than me, has been passed up for a position which I got. Now every time I see him he wants to know how much I’m making.

Signed, Annoyed

Dear Annoyed:

This sort of thing is not unusual; to have one who’s been in a job longer to be passed by another to get the job he wanted. Nor is it unusual for coworkers to compare pay and to think they should be paid as well as or better than others. Pay is usually considered private and not announced. Yet, pay differences are used to motivate. Only a few companies make pay common knowledge. So how have you replied to your coworker?

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Where To Go From Here?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about career direction: After quitting an engineering job in Malaysia because of workplace politics and ill health, now recovered where do I go from here?

I have been in only one company since graduation, for 10 years. I have been promoted several times, the last one a senior assistant manager, overseeing three departments: Laboratory , Administration, and GPS/GIS/RS Mapping. I loved my job though I had to put in many extra hours. Unfortunately about one year ago the office politics, slandering, defamation and bullying boss got to me and I had to quit as I developed major depression and pain all over my body.

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Bait And Switch

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about unfair pay policy:

Interviewed for position and received an offer letter for the position. Resigned from previously held position. Relocated from Texas to Nevada. After starting position, Field Service Engineer, was then informed that the company had what it called usual and customary policy where the first hour of travel and the last hour of travel were not paid. I am considering suing the company for the hours that I have not been paid for as I was not told about this unethical practice until after I accepted the position. This practice is still being performed today with new hires and other engineers are also feeling trapped as we had already resigned from previous positions.

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