What Can I Do About A Co-Worker Who Called Me A Bitch?

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about being called a bitch:

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Question:

I go to work today like any other day, gave my manager some chocolate from Belgium and things were fine. A coworker went to lunch, came back, and told my manager her tire looked low. I called my husband because we have a pump and live 5 minutes from the office, while the manager grabbed her phone. I opened the back door said the employee’s name, heard nothing and shut and locked the door thinking she was in the restroom or something.

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How Should I Treat A Co-Worker Who Is Given Preferential Treatment?

A Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about relationships with a co-worker
who seems to be getting preferential treatment.

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Question:
Should I stop talking to a coworker who is clearly given partiality on the work line by the line leader? I have been a good sport about this for a long time and it has not changed. I am now very resentful that I am given jobs that are difficult and she is exempt because of their friendship.

Answer:
Without knowing any details of the situation it is difficult to give specific advice, but I can certainly give you something to consider: If your coworker is a friend of the line leader and you stop talking to the coworker, it is probable that the line leader will hear about it and will not view you favorably. Do you think that will help you get better jobs or even more difficult ones? Refusing to talk pleasantly to a coworker is never the solution to a work problem related to a supervisor.

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Someone I Mentor Is Trying to Take Over My Work.

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors: How do I deal with someone I mentor
but who now seems to be taking over my position?
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Question:   
I worked with a person at another facility and thought she was intelligent and hardworking. As a result, when I was promoted to the Department Coordinator position I asked my manager to consider her for my old position. Ever since this person came to our department I have mentored her and spent considerable time training her. She now seems to think she can insert herself in my new position and interfere in my job responsibilities. Unfortunately our manager does not correct this behavior.

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Constant Criticism and Anger at Work

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about an employee who criticizes how things are done:
I have an employee at work who is constantly criticizing how things are done. She is a perfectionist in her tasks and indeed does a very good job in her duties, often staying until late and performing way beyond the standards that she is asked for.

However, whilst doing so, she is constantly complaining, especially to a small group of people, about how others do their work. Even though of course everything can always be improved and done at a higher level, as a manager I don’t see any clear reasons for complaint. All the opposite, I feel that everyone is working well and that the job is certainly getting done; many times even way over my expectations.

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I’m Afraid of a Coworker Who Wrote Angry Remarks On Facebook

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors: What should I do about
an obsessive coworker who vented his anger about me on Facebook? 

Question:

I have been working at a grocery store for about 3 months now. All was going well till this guy I work with posted a “song” on Facebook that he wrote talking about me and how I was smart and I was beautiful, I have only ever said “Hi. How are you?” to him. The next day he messaged me telling me these things and more like he’s been “thinking of me for weeks.” I replied to this “That’s cool. Thanks”.

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Shut me in a Room with Her and Blocked From Leaving

I have a coworker, who, in my personal opinion, is slightly off her rocker. Other coworkers feel the same about her. She has days where she is courteous and acts “normal” then others where she is extremely ….lets just say different. She has worked here longer than me by 5 months (a total of 4 years) and will ask questions that have obvious answers.

She is confrontational not just with me but other coworkers as well and will make a point to look on other people’s work to try and find mistakes. She will ask our boss a question, and our boss will give her an answer. Then she proceeds behind his to ask many people the same question. She’s been reprimanded for that.

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How Can I Deal with Coworkers Who Don’t Take Me Seriously?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about: How can I deal with coworkers who don’t take me seriously?

I’m working in a pharmacy with 12 staff. All of them are teenagers and locals but I’m a 32 year old immigrant who can’t speak English fluently. Since I started working there, the 19- year old dispensary manager, who does whatever she wants thanks to the lack of management skills in the owner/ pharmacist, was not friendly towards me. The examples are: she never initiated a conversation. Whenever I did, she was short and seems disinterested. She makes no any eye contact during a conversation; so, I stopped trying after a while. She used to roll her eyes when I talked to her (work related subjects) to which I told her I took offence. She has stopped that. Now she doesn’t even say good morning anymore. But I have to say that she is slightly friendly in front of the boss.

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My Friend Became An Irritating Coworker. Now What?

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about how to deal with a friend
who is also an irritating coworker.

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Question: 
A couple of years back, my friend was not in a great place mentally so when a job came up at my workplace, I got her in.  She worked as a caterer/ school kitchen assistant before, so I thought a change into office administrative work would help her.

Why does it irritate me so much that she soon became a different person–patronizing me, thinking she is more than she is, strutting around the place. I can’t bear her presence in my workplace and I’ve always loved my job. It’s making me crazy.

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How To Deal With An Overbearing Colleague Who Pulls Rank In An Inter-Office Team Project?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a colleague who pulls rank
in an inter-office team: How can I handle this in a way
that doesn’t reflect badly on my work? 

Question:

I have had some tension with a female colleague (herein after I refer to her as “T”). I think T. is getting more and more overbearing and I would like to know how to deal with or handle this conflict professionally so as not to affect my work product. I work for a large multinational organization and I have been working here for a little over two months.. I interviewed for a Vice President of Implementation role but was offered the role as an Assistant Vice President, with the promise of promotion to VP next year, which I am completely fine with. T. has worked here for 10 months and is a Vice President, but I do not report to her, although I work on a project team with her and another colleague, “N.”

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Facebook Post Threatens???

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a Post that was seen as threatening:
My coworker reported a Facebook post that another coworker posted to our boss. I participated in commenting on the post along with other coworkers. The coworker that reported the post told our boss that she felt threatened by the Facebook post. The Facebook post had absolutely nothing to do with her. The Facebook post did not mention any names and did not mention our place of employment. Our boss has now assigned this particular coworker and I to work closely together in the same department, although the coworker has stated that she felt threatened by me. Is this legal?
Signed, Working With Coworker Who Said She Feels Threatened By Me

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