Affair, Resignation, Termination . . .

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about an affair:

A recruiter in a large, successful company has an affair with her boss/manager. He convinces her his marriage is on the rocks. Two-three years later, she learns he has lied to her all along. She confronts his wife. He resigns, getting her fired. Her recourse if any?

Signed, Outcome of An Affair

Dear Outcome of An Affair:

Probably the best she can do is to get on with her life and career. Since she worked in recruitment, she should know the ropes of entering the job market; therefore she is ahead of most people who have been fired. Might she have recourse of reinstatement? Probably not. Apparently, from the little information provided in this query, this woman knew she was having an affair with a married man. That doesn’t place her is good stead for charging sexual harassment.

A large successful company no doubt has policy in place for handling such situations that led to the boss’ resignation and her termination. The odds of this woman blaming her boss and acquiring support from her company are not high. Our site answers communication-related workplace matters, not legal; however, this woman might consult an attorney to learn if she might have some legal recourse. I think there is little hope for this route of recourse; even when the facts are in the favor of a woman involved with an affair with her boss, such action is costly, lengthy, and distracts her from finding a new job. Learn. Learn from this and move on. Find a job that can use her talents and that has a healthy culture. That kind of work environment is one in which working together with hands, head, and heart takes and makes big WEGOS.

William Gorden