I have a subordinate who has a crush on me. I’ve told him it is inappropriate and underscored that I am his boss. Yet, he continues to ask me about ‘getting a bite to eat’ or doing something else outside of work.On the face of it, it is clear, but really, I’ve gotten myself into this mess. He is Mr. Desperately Lonely – comes to work at 6.30AM and leaves at 6.30pm. He has no activities or interests outside work. His big highlight is babysitting his grandkids. Me, I came into the office where the politics were really messy, and this subordinate was very helpful and kind. Plus, I was going through a lot of personal stuff — yes, I was needy. So I showed him kindness by talking to him and was open. And, against my better judgment I agreed to take my kid and go with him and his grandkid to a baseball game. It was very weird experience. He is kind of “not right” in an Aspergers way. Anywway, that was last summer. I had a hard time being clear initially, because politically, I needed him to be on my side, and be my ally.I did not want to alienate him, so I tried to be indirect, and ignored his ‘crush’ for the most part, thinking it would just work itself out. Then, he gave me a present for Xmas and Valentines day and both times I went ballistic and told him he can’t do that since it is inappropriate, and that if he didn’t stop I would need to find another job. I told him “I am not your girlfriend, I am your boss. You need to stop.” I told him he could not come into my office to chat, and made very clear what else he can and can’t do. From Feb 14 to about June, he seemed to be behaving, but, I thought I would up pictures of a boyfriend, who I invented, a tactic, which I thought couldn’t hurt. After I put up the pictures, about 2 wks ago, Mr. D.L said that since he was going to work for another supervisor, he wanted to date me. Before he said this, he asked first if I was dating anyone, and thinking that he saw the pictures, when I said yes, he seemed to fall back.So the pictures worked. I haven’t told anyone in the office about the situation. I finally told my boss last week, as a way to let him know a problem occurred and I handled it and how. I didn’t go into all the details because I was uncomfortable and I just want to move on. He thought it was kind of funny, as I did too. Now I am just wondering if I did the right thing by telling my boss.I don’t want to file a complaint. I don’t want to embarass the subordinate, and I sure as hell don’t want to air the mistakes I made. I need to work with the guy, since he sits next door to me, and also for political reasons. As a single working mom, I need my job.