Grad Asks About Maintaining Personal Relationships

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about maintaining personal relationships with a professional career: 


I am about to graduate from college soon and look forward to beginning my professional career. However, throughout my time at school I have been working two jobs which I will have to give up once I transition to a full-time career. I currently work as both a server and a nanny and I have grown very attached to the owners/co-workers at my restaurant job and the family I work for while babysitting. How do I quit these jobs and still maintain the personal relationships?

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Pay Vs Other’s Pay

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about asking coworker about her/his pay: What should I say?

A co-worker, who’s been on the job longer than me, has been passed up for a position which I got. Now every time I see him he wants to know how much I’m making.

Signed, Annoyed

Dear Annoyed:

This sort of thing is not unusual; to have one who’s been in a job longer to be passed by another to get the job he wanted. Nor is it unusual for coworkers to compare pay and to think they should be paid as well as or better than others. Pay is usually considered private and not announced. Yet, pay differences are used to motivate. Only a few companies make pay common knowledge. So how have you replied to your coworker?

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Where To Go From Here?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about career direction: After quitting an engineering job in Malaysia because of workplace politics and ill health, now recovered where do I go from here?

I have been in only one company since graduation, for 10 years. I have been promoted several times, the last one a senior assistant manager, overseeing three departments: Laboratory , Administration, and GPS/GIS/RS Mapping. I loved my job though I had to put in many extra hours. Unfortunately about one year ago the office politics, slandering, defamation and bullying boss got to me and I had to quit as I developed major depression and pain all over my body.

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Bait And Switch

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about unfair pay policy:

Interviewed for position and received an offer letter for the position. Resigned from previously held position. Relocated from Texas to Nevada. After starting position, Field Service Engineer, was then informed that the company had what it called usual and customary policy where the first hour of travel and the last hour of travel were not paid. I am considering suing the company for the hours that I have not been paid for as I was not told about this unethical practice until after I accepted the position. This practice is still being performed today with new hires and other engineers are also feeling trapped as we had already resigned from previous positions.

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Ordered Upfront

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a change in position by new manager:

I and my colleague have been managers for a family run farm shop for 5 years. Now his daughter is taking our jobs and is putting us back in front of the shop. What can we do?

Signed, Want My Job Back Not Up Front

Dear Want My Job Back Not Up Front:

From the little you say, it seems that the daughter now has the role of owner/manager of the farm shop or that has been delegated to her. Has your role been changed already and if so how have you responded to that? You have a choice to grin and bear it, to firmly confront this daughter expressing your unhappiness with being ordered to work in front and no longer to manage, or to seek work elsewhere. I assume you simply want your job back as manager.

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Temp With A Bad Boss

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about accused of a poor attitude:

I have been working for this company for 7 months as a temp. My work performance is superb. I received a call from my agency telling me that it was brought to his attention that I have a attitude and I called my lead a fake bitch. I asked him where did he hear these accusations from and of course he would not say other than it was more than one resource. He told me that the company wanted to fire me but my work performance basically saved me but if he gets another call then I would be fired.

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Jumped Over For Being Hired Full-Time

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about being passed by for full-time positions:

I am a Substitute custodian at a very high rated school district for the past 14 months in that time 7 other sub-custodians, some only in the district less than a month and having less experience have been hired over me for full-time positions. What is the recourse if any?

Signed, Frustrated:

Dear Frustrated::

I can imagine how frustrating and disappointing it has been to have others hired when you were expecting a full-time job. We are not attorneys and do not have expertise about such issues, so you may want to consult with an attorney about it. Among the things that might be helpful would be a review of any contract you have that makes promises about hiring. Or, if you think you could show you are not being hired solely because of your age, gender, race, ethnicity or religion, that might be an issue to pursue. We focus on workplace communications and it seems communication is needed in this situation. If you receive performance evaluations look at them to see if there have been comments about any aspect of your work that could give you the answer. In addition, talk to your direct supervisor and ask him for some open and honest advice about why he or she thinks you have been jumped over in this way.

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Poor Management

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about name calling: I was then called a “lazy fuck” and walked out on.

I started working for a sports bar about six months ago that is privately owned and does not have a corporate office or anything of the sort. During my first month of work I was called a “Bitch” by my kitchen manager (I am an expo in the kitchen) to which I questioned the words that had just come out of his mouth. He had apologized and claimed he didn’t mean to say that, he was only joking. I let go of the situation and carried on. About a month later he had made another “bitch” comment to which I told him he could not speak to me like that and he once again said he was joking and carried on. On a different occasion I was asked to clean something in the kitchen but due to the high amount of orders I did not have a chance to get around to it.

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Overwhelmed With New Job

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about feeling stressed in new position:

In the past I have consulted your services and have received some very valuable advice. I once again call upon your expertise. Earlier this year, almost 6 months now, I changed industries, type of work and even length of commute. Although I studied and trained in I.T, my first job that I held for two years contained a lot of mundane tasks and manual data entry. This job however is in the marketing/promotions field. Our busy period has already started in full swing and I fear that all the training and experiences I have gone through is falling apart as I encounter various issues with the paperwork that I have to process.

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Boss Does Not Communicate With Me.

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about friendly but distant boss:

I recently started working for a company and was recruited by my current boss to work here. My boss was very friendly to start but has become increasingly distant over the past few months with no obvious reason. She and I both work long hours and we are often alone together in the office but she will never speak to me. If I say hello or goodbye I am lucky to get a head nod and I can count on my fingers the number of times she has initiated conversation with me. Despite this, I have always tried to be courteous; however, I do not feel free to initiate conversation with her unless it is absolutely necessary.

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