I Quit My Cussing Boss!

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My boss demanded to know why a job due for today before 4 p.m. was not running! Ii received the job today around 10:30am this morning. It took me half an hour to scan the job, and another half an hour to send it from the network to the Xerox!! So around 11am, he comes up to me and asked me if the job was ready to be run on the Xerox, I said soon, its sending from the network now, I told him that the job ticket said the job needed to be perfect!! Around 11:20 a.m. the Xerox Technician comes to service the machine. I asked him how long is it going to take and he said not long, just a few minutes!! I said okay, and then my boss comes again and asks me if the job is running?? I said I’m shifting the job now, but the technician needs to check out the scanner (the Xerox cannot run during DIAGNOSTICS mode). Then he gets mad and says well THIS JOB IS DUE FOR TODAY AND YOU BETTER START IT, SWITCH IT TO THE OTHER MACHINE AND YOU BETTER GET TO THE F@#K TO IT NOW!!

I was shocked when he demanded for the job to me using profanity!! I thought that was very unprofessional for him as a BOSS. I left the job running, I got my jacket and went to the manager and told him I was leaving and he asked why? I told him that it was very inappropriate for the boss to be cursing, and I told him that I was not one of his kids for him to be treating me like that, and if this is going to a place that does not appreciate the workers, then I don’t need to be here!!! I’m fed with it!!! And I punched out and I am not returning any more!!! I have been there 3 years and 6 months, I’ve only gotten one raise and that was my first year, I do more than what I have too, I got injured twice at work and He told me not to go to the hospital!! And if I did not to mention it was work related, starting employees are being paid the same salary I am and I have more seniority!!!!! Is there anything that I can do??? Report to the Dept of Labors or talk to a Lawyer or something??? PLEASE HELP ME ASAP!!!!! HAPPY HOLIDAYS.

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Hired-Fired–No Reason!

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I recently interviewed and was hired for a very good position. To all appearances it seemed a good company and job. I had worked with some of the employees on previous contracts. The recruiter told me that they had passed on positive feedback, although I had not listed them as references. Additionally the company uses a web based anonymous professional reference tool and ‘personality test’, which he stated gave good feed back. I was being employed in an area that I had no previous experience, but I have a good tolerance for steep learning curves, so it did not seem like it would be a problem. It looked like a great fit.

I was placed on a team with 3 other co-workers (none I had previously worked with), two who were not familiar with the product but experienced in training, and one who was experienced in the product but not in training. The ‘managing supervisor’ ‘handed the project over’ to this consulting team, and disappeared. We had one scheduled phone meeting and a couple of social encounters. Everyone seemed to get along just fine….but apparently I was mistaken. There were some team dynamics, but none that I felt were very serious. Most of these revolved around who was doing what, and how it was done. We had some intense discussions, but there was no yelling, name-calling or anything derogatory said by anyone, it was about how to create the training materials. It all seemed like fairly reasonable discussion. I did request some ground rules regarding interrupting others, but that seemed to resolve easily. We talked, laughed and joked on many occasions. Week three I received a phone call, told not to return to the client, asked about a training tool I ‘refused to use’ and with no other discussion was invited to resign. I really want to know what happened, if for no other reason than to understand what I said or did that prompted such a dramatic response. I sent and email to the three people on the call (HR, the manager, and a second manager) and stated that there ‘may have been something said that was taken out of context, which caused this misunderstanding. Can we please discuss this further?

I contacted one of the co-workers and asked what was going on, but she did not give me any concrete details, except that I was driving a wedge between the team and the client, no details. I told her I was willing to talk about it and work it out. She suggested I call the other team members and discuss it with them. I called and left messages, but did not get any return calls. I called the ‘managing supervisor’ and in the middle of talking to her, she took another call, dropped my call and did not call me back. I called and left a message that I would really like to discuss all of this further to understand what the problems were, what was said or done. She has never called me back. I did not receive any response, until later that day, when with no further explanation was asked to resign. I requested to work in another area, or to try a temporary probationary period to allow me a chance to fix this. These requests were flatly refused.

Either I have done something so heinous it cannot even be discussed with me or there this whole thing is very weak excuse for something else (I could not begin to guess what). I am so confused.

Obviously this does not look very good on my resume…and myself esteem has taken quite a hit. I am just not sure what to do next. I certainly do not want to repeat this scenario again, but am at a loss as to how to prevent it.

Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks.

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Hired A Hypochondriac Friend!

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I work for my husband who is a doctor. Three months ago my receptionist retired and I hired a friend who I felt needed a boost. She was having trouble finding a job so I gave her the position. O.K. So this was my first mistake, hiring a friend. Well, I really hoped it would work out. The job is quite simple, answering the phone, making appointments and filing. This person seems to be under a black cloud. She is preoccupied about every detail of her health and moans and whines all day about these “imagined” ills. She is always leaving early to go to this doctor or that doctor. Last week she was out all week with “the flu” and now she’s called in again for Monday. She is not friendly or pleasant with our patients, she can’t seem to catch on and often files charts without resolving the problem the patient called in about. She “forgets” important details and leaves mail lying about. She won’t file things where they go nor do the few tasks she’s been asked to do each day. After hiring her, I gave her a detailed job description. When I remind her or correct her in any way, she whines or cries and says, “Well, I’m still new, I’m just doing the best I can.” Please help. Did I mention that she has missed a total of 5 weeks now, out of the three months onboard? I’m afraid our friendship is over anyway as I’ve lost respect for her. Thanks, signed: trying my “patience” in the doctor’s office.

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Humiliated By A Bully Boss.

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Last Wednesday I was humiliated at work due to a write up. The situation occurred during our “meeting” due to the write up. It is my responsibility to post the mail and send it out. The mailman, not our usual mail man, showed up almost an hour early and I did not have time to post the mail. I told my boss that I would take it after work. I have to pick up my kids and I stayed until 5:45 pm. During my mad dash out of the office I forgot the mail. I also have a catalog log that I work off of to send out our literature. The log was not updated yet the catalogs were sent out. These are the two offenses that I was written up for.

During our meeting I was told “YOU F*&%ED UP.” I was also called a liar because one of the girls, who doesn’t like me, told him the mail arrived around 10:30 when in fact it arrived around 9:30. I told him the time that the mail was delivered and he said he confirmed it with this particular coworker. He also knows that this coworker has tried in the past to get me fired or in trouble yet he chose to believe her over me. I was so stunned that I could NOT say anything! I had this panicked feeling come over me almost to the point that I could not breathe. I just sat there stunned that he would talk to me this way.

Then, the next thing I knew he is telling me that he was working on this coworker’s computer and heard my personal conversation, with my mortgage company. He actually drew a picture with two circles. One circle had the company name and the other said “personal.” He walked over to the board and pointed to the “personal” circle and said, “you have to learn to separate this, personal, from this, company name. By this point I was completely humiliated! I could not believe that he actually drew a picture trying to get me to understand something. I am NOT stupid by any means!

I was so upset about all of this I have cried off and on for the last four days. I talked to HR who has told me that I need to fill out a grievance form to give to the owner. And on Friday, Feb. 18, he came in two hours late. He was telling me to get some files boxed up by 1:00 and then had the nerve to send me a “reminder” email after he just told me to do this. At 5:00 pm while has was walking out the door I told him that I competed what he wanted me to and then some. His remark was “I didn’t think you could do all of that.” And then he said “Doesn’t it feel good to be proactive?” as he was insinuating that I do nothing. My husband was so furies over the entire situation that he wants me to file the report, call the Labor Board and quit. We finally came to the decision that I would put in my two weeks notice. I plan on doing that Monday. Is there anything else that I should be doing or not doing?

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Resigned. Rumor I Was Fired!

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Recently, I resigned from my job. My employer and I came to a mutual agreement that things were not going to work out for me with the company. I was very unhappy working there and my supervisor was well aware of it. The company gave me a severance package (2 weeks of pay) but made it very clear in the agreement that was 8 pages long that they admit no wrongdoing.

After leaving my job, one of my former co-workers called me to ask how I was doing because she heard I got fired. I told her that I did not get fired and that I resigned do to irreconcilable differences between me and other co-workers. In addition, she said that there’s a lot of gossip going around the office about how I am crazy and that I am bitter about losing my job. I have informed the HR department and the president of the company (who is an attorney) that I am suing the company and my former co-workers who are smearing my name for slander. Do I ! have a case for slander?

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In Sixties And A Pain!

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Nine months ago, a chiropractic doctor as a receptionist hired me. There were only three of us; the doctor, Sally, the office manager, who is an older person in her sixties, and me. About a week after I started, Sally yelled at me for little things such as using blue pens instead of black. She is a health nut and pours out my diet coke and junk food. She even yells at me in front of patients. The doctor and she have been together for years and he say anything to stop her abuse. Both the doctor and patients have witnessed her outbursts. After six months I was laid off. I told the doctor about Sally’s verbal abuse and he said she wouldn’t change. She has treated other receptionists badly too. I live in California. There ought be some way to stop her outbursts.

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She’s Trying To Get Me Fired!

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I work for a nonprofit organization at a location with another organization. Over the past several month’s a management member from the other organization has been trying to get me fired by: asking customer’s to write complaints about me, expressing in committee meetings my uncaring attitude about my job, calling me a little girl in these meetings, saying I’m doing childish thing’s like hiding thing’s from her, and her staff, letting my supervisor run my game, saying she can’t get a hold of me when she needs to, involving shared employees to the degree they are all walking on egg shells, asking her staff that is present to write notes about conversations they overheard which almost always in some way get special treatment for doing so.

I believe a select few are taking advantage of her control issues to get special treatment. Now she’s taking all of her made up and unsupported concerns to her boss who in turn is constantly going to mine. My boss is telling me that he’s aware she’s just trying to get me fired. The other day though I received word from my boss that they feel my supervisor of nine years is a big part of the problem and wants her let go even though she hasn’t had write ups or any disciplinary actions for the duration of her employment. He also wants me to hire someone with a manager’s license as my new supervisor and backup manager.

I believe that my employment will end as soon as this new person is trained. This woman is never even present at my game time. I believe she’s a bully and uses bullying tactics in the work place. My stress level has been thru the roof for months now it’s affecting my job performance, my home life, and my health. I’ve in the last three weeks I’ve experienced panic attacks, depression, irritable bowels, and insomnia. The inability to not constantly prepare for the next attack has made me overly sensitive and very reactionary along with being constantly fearful for my job, I would love to just quit, but financially it is impossible. We have four young children. I work three days a week. To make what I do at this job, I would have to take full time work that isn’t an option considering they are out of school, and we couldn’t afford the daycare.

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I Quit; Am I Due Vacation Pay?

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I have just turned in my notice to my current employer of 3 years and I have 2 weeks of vacation time left. I didn’t know if there was some law that said they had to pay me for that time or if it was just up to them. In case it matters I live in NC. Thanks for your help,

Signed,

Voting With My Feet In N.C.

Answer:

Dear Voting With My Feet In N.C.:

Whether a separated employee receives vacation pay after resignation is an individual company policy. In most cases, the employee will be paid. However, many companies have a policy if an employee resigns without working a notice (which is generally two weeks), the vacation pay is forfeited. Discuss the matter with your supervisor, human resources personnel, or an appropriate management person “before” leaving. Best of luck. Think WEGO.

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Am I Being Replaced?

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I have been working for my employer now for a little over 2 years as her assistant manager. Recently she hired a new employee and he took over most of my job duties including assistant manager for no reason known to me. I feel like they are trying to get me to quit. The owner told me what my job would be, and when I went to do it, the new assistant manager told me I couldn’t do it anymore and speak the owner and let her tell me what to do. I also believe she is paying him more for doing the same job I was doing. What do I need to do?

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Can I Be Fired For Reporting Sexual Harassment?

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Can a person be fired while not on the job? I wrote you some time ago about a harassment issue in my office. A week ago, I made a formal charge about the issues. I was then on vacation for 10 days. I was called into the office last Friday – while still on my vacation time, and told I was being fired for insubordination — because it was my managers who were involved in the harassment. My first question: CAN they fire me while I am not “employed” — in essence not on the job — and Secondly: Can they fire me for bringing this incident to light?

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