Don’t Socialize Am a Loner

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about not wanting to go to work:

Thanks so much for your website. It’s helpful to see that I am not alone in having difficulty at work. Recently, I read the posting “Loner at Work Has Us Concerned” and I really appreciated your response. I am the “loner” at my own workplace. I don’t socialize that much at work as I have a very full life outside of the day job. I have a big family (though I don’t have children myself) and other commitments which I love and so really have no room nor interest in going out for lunch with the crew or the Friday night drinking and parties, etc.

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Should I Quit Over Concern About The Affair of Two Others?


I’ve been employed by an international multi-million dollar company that manufactures and sells medical instruments, for over two years. My question pertains to the specific location I work in. Just over a year ago, one of the Human Resources associates began having an affair with a department Lead, who is married. At least that’s what everyone (not an exaggeration) says. The Lead has admitted to it, but the HR associate hasn’t and probably won’t. They often collaborate on work-related projects and she (HR) gives him (Lead) commendations and publicized thanks in the form of company-wide emails for whatever help he provides. Their flirtations are obvious and occur anytime they’re in the same space together.

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Can I Put a Letter in My Personnel Folder After Being Fired?

Can a terminated employee have something entered into their personnel file after termination? I was fired after four days of work, before I could speak to my manager regarding hostile or unfair treatment from the person who was supposed to be training me. The manager never knew. I want it added because I was fired and was not given an opportunity to discuss it with her. Since the company may not mail me copies of my personnel file, will I still be able to view it one time?

Your question is a follow-up to an earlier one, in which you provided details of what sounded like an ineffective training and hiring/firing process. This is the first question.

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Can I Be Fired By Someone Who Is Not An Employee of the Company?

I was fired from my new job by the owner’s girlfriend who is not an employee at the company. She fired me at a time that both my manager and owner were not in the office. I was fired after only four and half days of training. The excuse given was the company was going in another direction and I was not a good fit and wasn’t grasping the duties.

I was told when hired I would have at least two weeks of training. When I took the position they were over a month behind with billing, bonuses etc. I learned the program and bonus structure in two days without a written training manual. On day three my manager did not know that there was not a training manual for this area. She asked a senior employee to write one. That employee created a flyer format manual that had about eight steps. I brought them to two days shy of being completely up to date.

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My Resume after Being Fired?

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about what should be included in one’s resume after being fired:

My last employer terminated me from my non-permanent job after four months. They would not let me transfer to another unit or ward or shift. The place had a reputation for being hostile. Now they are blackballing me. My physician advised deleting them from my resume, but I gained valuable experience. What should I say when applying for another job? Admit to the firing and explain why? Or just erase that from resume and my life forever. It was a horrible experience and I am still in shock.

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I’m in an at-will state, and as a non-permanent employee, I was terminated with no reason (after months of bullying and harassment). Then I had an interview schedule in another section (different boss, different clients), and HR called to rescind the interview. No reason. No one will talk to me. I’m over 68 years old. Any recourse?

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Terminated Without Proper Investigation

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about terminated without proper investigation:

I joined a large company last June to head a large technical team. The person leaving my position went to another area of business, probably out of frustration. I wanted to start new and brought in fresh ideas and equitable work distribution. Some of the folks apparently did not like this as they were used to taking it easy.

One of those employees – usually a good worker – did not like one scope of an improvement sentence in his mid-year review. So he went and complained of frivolous things (and untrue of course) to HR in Feb. this year. HR apparently did not take it seriously. Then he rallied a few of his peers (that also reported to me) since they come from same region in Asia. They added their backing to this employee. HR started an investigation. HR however would not reveal who complained (as expected).
One of my employees was a low performer. However, when I knew that she was pregnant, I rated her as “Satisfactory” for year-end review. During calibration for the year end across our group, my manager and my peers raised an objection and wanted her to be marked as a poor performer. The HR representative in the call also agreed that she could be marked as low since she is not on maternity leave yet and her evaluation was for a time before her absence. So, I agreed with the team to mark her as low.

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My Employer’s Forcing Me To Quit

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about recently hired employees being given preference:
My employer is wrongful forcing me to quit. I work for a unionized construction company. I’ve been with my job for ten years now. The job consists of pouring concrete slabs and all aspects of concrete for commercial warehouses and stores. For the last 9 years, I have made saw cuts into the concrete slab to prevent it from uncontrolled cracking.

In the past year, they fired my co-worker by forcing him to quit, the same way they are treating me. I’m worried I’m next on their list. Employer hired two new employees for my position as a second crew, but slowly as work slowed down , I’ve been getting less shifts as the new employees would get the call for work before they would call me.

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Fired For A Thoughtful Gesture

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about correcting an associate:
I was terminated for tapping “very lightly” on the side of an associate’s head, while correcting her. I was reprimanding an associated for damaging company property, and she told me it was faster to dump the product on the work table. I told her she just thought it was faster and while saying the word “thought”, I tapped her on the side of the head ever so lightly.

This is an employee that I had hired and thought our relationship was evidently better than it was. I did not know she was going to get upset, she did not show she was upset while I was talking with her.
Signed Lost Job

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Almost Got Fired

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a mistake that could have gotten resulted in being fired:
My job requires me to run background checks all day on potential employees for the company around the United States. On my lunch hour, I had used my work computer to make a payment for my spouse. It was a court payment that required me to pull up his citation which was a felony. I had taken a picture of it and sent it to my spouse. Accidentally I sent it to a coworker instead. The coworker then shared the picture with my boss, and my boss had said I was taking pictures of people’s backgrounds. I explained that it was a personal and not a background check on anything company related. I apologized that I used the work computer, but said I could prove it was my spouse’s citation and charges.

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