How Can We Deal With A Reluctant Team Member?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a team member who resists change What can we do to get our co-worker to work with us?

My team has a co-worker who is setting himself apart from us. He has been with the team the longest (15 years) and is resisting the changes that our professor is implementing. Other issues are that there is a new younger male team member who is very personable and has turned into a driving force to implement the changes our professor has requested. The dean of our college has also told us that we must make these changes and our co-worker still insists on resisting these changes. The dean and our professor are women. He is the only member of the team who is resisting changes; the rest of the team is interested and excited about the changes. What can we do to get our co-worker to work with us?

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How Can I Break In?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about not fitting in to a new job: What would you do to stop the on and off alienation or punishment they want to make me aware?

For the first time in my life I have a job with no deadlines or unnecessary stress. At this point in my life I do not want a stressful job. I am 47 and am raising 9 and 10 year old boys. My co-workers work harder than me, but I would not consider any of our jobs stressful. There are 5 men and 2 females including myself. The one female hardly ever talks to me unless I address her. But she does engage in conversation with all the other men in the office. I am new to the company and they have been together for over 10 years. They have continued their routines as far as sports pools and their friendships and do not include me in their little family of friends.

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Trapped With An Incompetent Teammate!

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about being assigned a partner who is incompetent: She just relies on my husband to do everything and tell her what she should do; it’s like he’s doing two jobs! His immediate boss won’t do anything; should my husband go over their heads?

My husband works at a very small company where the workers are split into teams of two. Since the beginning, my husband was teamed with a completely incompetent person (all the other workers said they’d quit if they were teamed with her). Even after three years, she still doesn’t know a thing, and she has shown no interest in ever learning. She just relies on my husband to do everything and tell her what she should do (it’s like he’s doing two jobs!).

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I’m Unofficial Supervisor With No Perks!

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about unofficially supervising yet not  rewarded: How do I tell management, I want the promotion or re-assign some tasks?

I have a problem within my entire organization. I have become the unofficial supervisor of my department. I do everything a manager does plus my job as a regular colleague. I have all the responsibility and none of the perks.I took the department under my wing to prove to management I had what it takes to be supervisor. A couple months later they decided that the department didn’t need a supervisor because we were running well. How do I tell management, I want the promotion or re-assign some tasks?

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Should I Stay Quiet When Others Are Outspoken?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a dominant coworker: I’m a quiet person and afraid if I speak up about this bully, I will be fired.

My workplace environment is getting very difficult, mainly due to one coworker. This person is: A dominant personality who is overbearing, loud, excessively confrontational, and will not take constructive criticism, but feels free to criticize everyone else. He’s the most proficient person I’ve ever met at getting his face in front of upper management, and will even resort to “stealing” ideas/opinions from coworkers (in a very subtle manner) to up his standing with the boss. This person has been at the job for over 14 years, while I have been there only 3 years. Unfortunately, I seem to have been a target of his wrath since I arrived mainly because I have more education than him and he saw me as a direct challenge to his position. Therefore, his negativity is directed at me, and others would have difficulty in understanding my position.

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What Should I Do About A Co-worker’s Mistakes!

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a coworker: One of my coworker is not doing his job properly. What should I do about this situation?

I have an issue at my workplace. One of my coworker is not doing his job properly. What should I do about this situation? Please reply. Regards.

Signed, Upset

Dear Upset:

Usually co-workers should not criticize or tell each other how to do a job unless asked or unless how a job is being done can cause harm to themselves or others. Nor should they tattle to the supervisor. Are there other ways to correct a co-worker’s performance? Possibly.

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I Feel Like All Are Against Me!

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a team that is in trouble: My job is fun but due to rumors I feel people don’t like me. Should I seek help for EPA or seek work elsewhere?

Thanks for letting me use this forum. I am experiencing a workplace dilemma. I have been working at this place four almost four years now. The job is fun and I have a lot of friendly coworkers who I talk to frequently. However, my work center or team has been falling apart.

There are two employees that have been problems on other shifts and to me as well. No one employee ever has anything good to say about the one. The other has been on this shift and not exposed to the other shifts. I have been welcomed on all three shifts. I have people who stop to say hi and talk and I feel comfortable at them all. Except for lately. A series of new employees came within this year. Their reluctance to befriend me or accept my extenuation of friendship made me feel as though they were misinformed by one to both of the troublesome coworkers.

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How Can I Work With This Co-Worker?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a member of her work group that has confronted her about use of her time: Doesn’t know how to deal with this individual about what is expected.

Almost six weeks ago I started a new job. I am a Clinical Medical Assistant to a specialty doctor. The person I was teamed up to work with seemed like a nice person and easy to work with. Well, I found out that is not the case. On Monday she took me aside and said that there was talk (between her and the clinical manager) that they cannot understand why one task takes me so long to complete. I reminded her that if someone does not inform me that there are other things I need to accomplish then I figure that is all that is expected of me that day.

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How To Handle An Efficient Staff?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a boss feeling not needed: How can I handle this without taking the no hands approach or looking insecure?

I feel like my staff doesn’t need me or want me involved in some of the day-to-day operations. I have a senior staff member of whom they look to for almost everything. How can I handle this without taking the no hands approach or looking insecure?

Signed, Director

Dear Director:

Kudos to you! It appears you’ve done well selecting team members who have been trained and who understand the goals & objectives. The Senior Staff member whom the team now looks to would not be there – without you giving proper direction and guidance.

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A Teammate Who Will Not Team?

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a coworker-teacher who  is dependent: What I’m trying to understand here is the mentality. I think I am looking for an explanation that is more palatable than thinking someone is self-centered, obtuse, and lazy. Is there?

I read through a ton of your archives, but didn’t find this one. I am puzzled by a colleague teacher of mine. We have both been teaching several years. It is a career that will never stop being a challenge, and I’ve resolved myself to feeling at the edge of exhaustion for the next 20 some years. (Don’t worry; the students themselves make it all worth it.) Of course, teamwork is essential to surviving the insanity of public education and its quirks, and I am all for working together to lighten the load.

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