The Wife of My Boss is Harassing Me, What Can I Do?

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about how to deal with the wife of the boss, who is sending harassing text messages and spreading lies and rumors in a small town. 



I am the office manager of a small office and am happily married–however, my husband is very ill.  I had previously worked for my boss for ten years, but moved away when I married my husband. Because of his illness we moved back to be near to family and after having another job for a while, my current boss offered me employment as his office manager, in August of 2013

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Watched at Work and Verbally Abused–Am I Being Paranoid?

A Question for Ask the Workplace Doctors regarding being watched at work and verbally abused:
My computer is being hacked and people are saying things about me. 


I have been in my role for 5 1/2 years now. Several times I have heard them say things like “we have to record her work” or “we have to record everything she does.” For the past one to two years I have noticed random mouse movements on my screen where they menu on the software moves down or I try and move my mouse and an abusive comment is made as they can’t move the mouse.

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Hangs Up

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about an abrupt cutoff of communication:

An employee hangs up the phone when I told him to do something he didn’t want to do like punch a time clock.

Signed, So

Dear So:

Please explain more about this situation. Who are you–the boss? Who is this individual and how well do you two get along? Are there other problems that cause you to send this question?

William Gorden

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Office Bullying

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about an apology: The co-worker then issued a very fake apology. How do I respond to this?

I was recently bullied by a co-worker. Our CEO had a meeting with her to address this issue, as I am not the first to suffer at this person’s hands, and the co-worker then issued a very fake apology. How do I respond to this?

Signed, How???

Dear How???:

I assume that her apology was oral and that you already responded in some fashion; with a thank you or at least a nod. If so, I’d say no more. Wouldn’t it be best if you don’t label her apology as fake and rather interpret it as positive, even if you feel it was reluctant?

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Manager Bullies Me But HR Won’t Do Anything

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about stressed by bully boss:

I’m 19 and have currently been in my job for nearly 2 years and I’m getting bullied by my boss. I am the supervisor and it is very difficult for me to keep strong in my job while being bullied and suffering with depression anxiety etc. I’ve put up for it for long enough and now feel my health is seriously getting worse because of this. I have been to the head of the company about this loads of times but each time nothing seams to get done about it. It’s almost like because I’m 19 they don’t want to listen. I think I’m going to have to give my notice or I will get ill.

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Written Complaint About Me

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about being accused of verbal abuse: The letter is not a direct complaint from the person who allegedly witnessed this.

I had a written complaint written to my boss that I allegedly verbally abused the disabled people I work with. I am sure this is written by my x partner’s family. Prior to me finding out about this accusation, my boss was at the same function as my x partner’s mother. The letter is not a direct complaint from the person who allegedly witnessed this. Rather it was written by a third party. There was also no date of the accusation. My boss appears to already have made up his mind that the lies are true. I have told him that I have an ongoing dispute with this lady. What can I do my x has written a statement to say he believes they are making up lies.

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Verbal Bullying and Abuse by Physician


I work with a physician. I am a co worker not a nurse. My hospital nor my company has done anything. He is very verbally abusive in front of staff and patients. Every nurse he has had has quit. He is very rude, disrespectful and demeaning in tone and language used. I have remained respectful, I am a Christian and I feel strongly about continuing to be a example to other workers. Although it is making me physically sick and my family suffers, I love my job. This doctor is hateful on every text, phone call and in person ever time which is daily, it has been years if I didn’t love my patients and know God was helping my patients through me I couldn’t have held on this long. But I can no longer continue this physician is so consistent it has broken my physical body down and I am over stressed all the time.

Please help me with what to do. I’m not afraid of him just I just want to stop this from continuing. He acts superior and embarrases me in front of staff and patients constantly. Can I do anything? How can I prove he has crossed the line? What rights do I have? Do I have to have my job in jeopardy to do something?

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Overheard Verbal Abuse of Coworker

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about verbal abuse:

I overheard a male coworker using profanity and a loud, angry tone with a female coworker who is very meek. I spoke to her to let her know that I had overheard his outbursts and was concerned. She said he had not apologized. Should I speak to the abuser directly, or ask a supervisor to handle it. I am female, but not meek. Maybe gender shouldn’t matter, but it seems to. I have never heard it, but this male coworker would probably speak like that to a meek male as well. He is often nice on the phone, but hollers and swears once he’s hung up. We are a small company, about 35 people. Should I send an email to the company officers to let them know that I have documented this incident? Should I speak to the male coworker directly? Should I send him an email? He’s not a terrible person, but he was terribly out of line. Thanks for helping.

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Bullied At Work And Getting No Support

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about discrimination and bullying:

I am a 52 year old Caucasian female who is being bullied at work by a “family” of present and former students who happen to be African American. I bring up the race issue ONLY because as a final bit of revenge against me this family reported me to our EEOC and implied I was a racist as they said I treated them differently. This is after I had to ask the local sheriff and our security to have them leave the library because they were taunting and bullying me and I stood up and would not take it anymore. I have worked for this local community college, in the library, for more than 11 years part time. After being bullied by the mother for years and now the oldest daughter who was a student and possibly even an employee last year, I contacted my superiors for he help. I did this only after they brought a group of 6-8 to terrorize me in the library.

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Mr. Genius Is Not That Smart

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about verbally abusive new employee:

Six months ago my company hired a man on recommendation of a coworker. Maybe two times every week, this particular person verbally abuses my coworkers by telling them things about themselves that he does not like. He also uses the computer system like his personal toy, and so he makes some mistakes as well. He goes to the boss and complains that he was not trained on something, never admitting he really violated the procedures. Since this work has many pieces to it, when a mistake is made, he often comes to me without saying hello, and just juts his arm out and says “Can you tell me why this happened”?

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