Feeling Unappreciated

I don’t know why, but I feel like I am very unappreciated for the amount of things I do at work. To give some context I work as a part-time stock and backup receiver at Discount Drug Mart. I’ve been there for almost 2 years and am contemplating on whether I should quit and get a new job where I can be appreciated for the amount of things I can do on my own. The list of things I do there are normal things for stock:

– Restock the shelves

– Get carts

– Make a bale (Cardboard boxes)

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I’m Attracted to My Boss and Getting Mixed Messages From Him.

Question:
I have an attraction to my boss. I can’t explain how it transpired but it did. And I get mixed signals from him. Like, at our annual staff party he told me, as he knew I was on a weight loss journey, that I’m such a beautiful woman and that when I’ve reached my goal he will introduce me to some people. He calls and sends me texts late at night. I’m just lost. Please help.

Response:
If you look at our archives you will find situations similar to yours. You’ll also see that we are consistent in saying it’s understandable that a coworkers at all levels in an organization might find a boss attractive and develop a crush (even to the point of obsession.) We also consistently say that such relationships nearly always lead to unhappiness for one or both.

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Coffee Feel Good

I’ve always loved coffee because I believe it makes people happy and brings people together. So when I started working at a coffee shop last year, it was a perfect match for me. I’ve had many weird or fun experiences since being there but one stood out to me because it felt so special.

A regular at the coffee shop came in one day, I had just started and didn’t know who she was. My coworker, and friend, whispered to me that the lady’s husband had very recently passed away and that she is moving to Florida to be closer to her family. I could already tell that this woman was sad without saying anything. We exchanged words and I took her order as I normally would but then came time for her to pay.

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She Mocked Me

A question submitted to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a workplace family matter:

I have been an Assistant Manager at a local car wash for about 6 months. Before, I was a regular line employee. It is a very high volume car wash with a lot of top dollar luxury vehicles. We wash anywhere from 25-90 cars an hour, so it is very important to trust your employees and give them the proper instruction. We must keep the same quality from car to car. I have never really had a problem with employees after being promoted except for 1 particular employee, my sister.

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A Hobby Is Good Job Prep

Because I am a high school student and do not have a job yet, I chose a hobby of mine. Something that I picked up this past year has been filmography. Creating short videos of things both big and small, and then posting it on YouTube. The way this connects to other people, is obviously when they choose to watch a video I’ve made. Another is when they like, comment, share, or subscribe to my channel. When they respond positively,

I know that I am doing something right, be it, I’m inspiring them, or bringing them a smile. If they respond negatively, I know that the negative reactions come from one of two things: 1) I did something wrong, whether it is moral, political, etc. or 2) the reactor has a different opinion than my own. Another, I suppose, could just be the reaction of a spam/ troll account on YouTube…I enjoy this hobby and it allows me to express my creativity while also connecting with others. 

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On Target

There have definitely been multiple times when I was at work and felt good afterwards based on actions that were taken. But one that stood out to me was when I was working at Target, and it had just started to pick up, meaning more people were coming in to shop at the store. Typically, we only have one cashier scheduled, but everyone on the floor is cashier trained, so if they need help they ask for additional cashiers to come to the front lanes. So it started to get busy and I responded to back up, but once my line is clear I would go back to what I was doing. I responded a few times to back up because no one else was, and I knew I wasn’t the only one on the floor. After my third time responding to backup, someone went over to the walkie and said someone else needed to respond so I could get done what I needed to. This felt good to me because they noticed that I was the only one responding to backup.

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Is it Sexual Harassment for a Co-Worker To Be in Relationship With a Family Member of Mine?

Question:
A coworker of mine had a sexual relationship with a family member of mine.  Is that considered sexual harassment?

Response: I can understand that such a situation as you describe could be uncomfortable at work, especially if the coworker and your family member have broken up or if there were bad feelings between them at some point. It would also be uncomfortable if some aspect of the situation was problematic—for example, if one or both of the people were already married to someone else.

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Co-Worker Plays Music and Managers Haven’t Helped!

Question:
I have a co-worker who has been in our office six months. I have been there ten years. She plays her music right next to my cubicle and I’ve told her many times I can’t concentrate with her music on. But she doesn’t care. I’ve gone to my managers and all they say is well we can hear you when you talk or laugh way back here. Nothing is done about the radio or the disrespect this girl shows towards me. I’m at a loss. Is there a law about this anywhere? I am a federal employee so I’m not sure if the laws are different.

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