Falsely Accused of Creating a Hostile Work Environment.

Question: I was recently terminated from my place of employment of four years on the accusation of hostile work environment. I was disqualified from unemployment benefits because of this. I have always treated my team with respect. given them praises on their work and given them incentives along with Christmas bonus. I believe this accusation arose because of my belief in maintaining and keeping a professional relationship with the team. I don’t engage in joking or becoming too chummy. When you try to correct them they feel that you are intimidating them. What should I do?

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Feel Like I’m Being Stalked By a Customer

Question: I am a general manager at a coffee shop. A customer has been coming in a couple of years who is a college or graduate studies girl. She has been really pushy lately with wanting me to hang out with her. About a year ago, I sat down with her on my lunch break at the shop just twice to talk to her because she was nice and enjoyable to talk to. These are the ONLY times outside my work schedule that I took time out of my busy schedule to hang out with her.

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How Can I End a Relationship With My Boss But Still Work Well With Him?

Question: My Boss and I started dating this year for about 9 months. As normal or should I say as expected, some of the feelings are going away. I feel hurt because some of the things he normally does, he stopped. Calls, special attention, stealing kisses.. especially the morning calls and show of affection. It sometimes makes me brood at work as well. I forgot to add he is married. The last months have been so wonderful, too good to be true even though I know it was just for a matter of time. These days, I feel and know it’s coming to an end.

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Texted Me “If you value your life.”

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about a threat:

I work in a retail store as a ASM . I received threatening text messages from my supervisor. One of his text states If you value your life. He is sending me text messages every day threatening to suspend me or change my shift. Today he sends me a text that says, “You want to play lets play.” Do you think I should go to HR with this? I am sick to my stomach every time I have to go to work. Quitting is not an option. I need this job.–

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Isn’t it Better to Fire Someone Than to Make Them Want to Quit?

Your question:

I am a 35 year old tech specialist who works at a firm in Cleveland. I’ve been with this company for 3 years. We have three main service lines: Management consulting, technology, and out-sourcing. The scope and objectives of my projects vary greatly, but in general I work on finance strategy assignments. Our work environment is overall good. This is in part due to the average tenure of any employee being 5 years, which translates to a zone of comfort in the office.

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Coworker’s Move to Hawaii Frustrates Cooperation

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about communication across time zones:

My coworker moved voluntarily to Hawaii which our leadership approved. Hawaii is in a time zone 6 hours behind where I live on the east coast of the United States. Her relocation was not related to a spouse having a job change but simply to escape the cold weather. We work on a very demanding project with two team–the business team based on the east coast and the IT development team from India. Because India is 10 hours ahead of eastern standard time, many of our meetings begin at 7 AM. My Hawaiian coworker doesn’t join these calls. She doesn’t have a very good understanding of the project because she doesn’t collaborate with the entire team. 

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What About Just A Hook-Up With My Boss?

A question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about sex with the boss.

Question: I really like my boss, but I just want a hook up. No dating, no relationship, no commitments, nothing like that.

Answer: We’re a site about workplace communication issues, rather than an advice column about romance and/or sexual activity. However, you may benefit from a reasonable and practical response to your question.

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This Special Thanks Was Personal

I work at Allstate. We have a lot of different forms of recognition built in already. You can send these points to your teammates when they help you out, do something good or create a change that benefits the whole office. Typically they are work related, something along the lines of “thank you for helping me with a difficult policy” or “thanks for always being there to answer my questions”. Recently I had received recognition and expected it to be along those same lines. I was surprised to see instead that it said “Thank you for always being open to others ideas and listening instead of assuming. You’re an excellent person and it makes you super easy to work with”. I really felt that was heart-felt and more of a compliment on my personality than just a typical “thanks for your help” email. It really made me feel like a solid piece of the team.

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