Boss Ignores Me In Favor Of A New Employee

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about feeling excluded by boss:

I am a recent college graduate and have begun a new job in PR. I loved my job at first. My boss and me worked very well together. We would take breaks and talk all the time, he took the time to really mentor me on the material, and had tasks planned out for me to accomplish.One month into the job, he hired a new employee. This employee is three years older than I am (he is 24) and has worked in the PR industry since college. Being hired at a higher position, he naturally knew more information about the space than I. But, I wasn’t expecting to suddenly be completely ignored by my boss. My boss now only talks about sports and guy stuff with the new employee and both curse constantly.

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My Boss Ignores Me

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about being ignored: I asked if everything is okay, and he accused me of thinking too much.

My boss is recently ignoring me. I’ve been with the company two years, and he was very supportive until a couple of months ago. I have no idea why this is happening, nor do I know what to do about it. I asked if everything is okay, and he accused me of thinking too much. I do my job well.

Signed, Thinking Too Much

Dear Thinking Too Much:

Feeling your boss ignores you is akin to feeling you are not appreciated. What might you do about that? You made a start by asking your boss if everything is okay. When he said, “You’re thinking too much,” did you just turn away and then start thinking more? That would have been a natural reaction. But if his “thinking too much” caused you to bite your tongue, you was a missed opportunity to clear the air. You had opened a conversation about your performance, and your boss apparently didn’t understand you were worried about his seeming coolness or for some reason he didn’t want to talk about that or he misread your question and thought it would put you at ease by simply saying “You are thinking too much.”

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