Quit. Don’t Want A Bad Reference!

Question to Ask the Workplace Doctors about boss from Hell: She stated she had put up with me for almost 10 years and she wanted me out! (Never in the 23 years working at my place of employment have I ever been given disciplinary actions, reprimanded or told my work did not meet expectations.)

After 23 years and in a manager position, I could not take the stress of working for my boss. She is a Boss from Hell: Screaming, throwing temper tantrums, throwing things and belittling people all the time. No compassion. One staff member was receiving chemotherapy for breast cancer and would work half days when going for treatments. This boss had the nerve, in the rudest voice, to say, “You have to be gone again? Just how much longer is this going to last?” This attitude was expressed on a daily basis to staff. Complaints to her boss did nothing. After 10 years working for her, I could not take it any longer. I would literally cry before leaving for work. On Friday nights, I would obsess that I only had two days before having to go back to work. Sunday night I couldn’t sleep. Finally, I got sick. I hit rock bottom-high blood pressure, dizzy spells, anxiety and panic attacks. I missed almost one month of work. And I confided in a co-worker that the boss’s attitude was making me sick and I couldn’t take her anymore. Upon returning to work, I gave the boss my doctor’s slip. She took it, looked at it, inquired if there were any restrictions. I replied no and that was it. Didn’t ask how I felt. Three days later, I was called into her office. She stated she had put up with me for almost 10 years and she wanted me out! (Never in the 23 years working at my place of employment have I ever been given disciplinary actions, reprimanded or told my work did not meet expectations.) I could see she was upset, but I said I had no clue what I had done. She stated-several people told her what I had said. I asked, “What?” She stated she wasn’t going tell me who or what was said. She just wanted me out! I was not given a chance to find out what was said, if it was taken out of context or what. I think it must have been the co-worker telling her I said the boss was making me sick. I was going to be demoted, and salary was going to be cut. I was already making less than the people I supervised (due to union raises-management didn’t receive raises several years). I was now going to have a pay-cut that made me making even less although I had more seniority. I decided to resign. Now the problem: I worked there for 23 years.

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